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Submitted by Wifi on Wed, 02/20/2008 - 1:13pm

Recently I started a Step-mom blog and I am not sure of how this all works? Any advice?

I really want to reconnect with other women/men in similar situations through this site and through others you might have. Most of the sites on the Blogroll are out of service.Does anybody else have another Step-mom/dad blog? I would love to link to your site.

Any suggestions would be helpful.

Thank you much!

www.anothermama.com if you feel inclined?

What is normal?....... Is this normal?

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Submitted by Wifi on Tue, 11/20/2007 - 11:26am

How much communication takes place between your H and his EX in reference to the kids?
Emails a day? Phone calls a day? If No emergencies are happening- No one is bleeding- No threat of something bad getting ready to happen to the kids. Just your everyday stuff-

"did you get the grades- well here they are-...etc...."
"are you taking J to her lesson today?....etc......"
"How did H do on his test?....Could you remind J about...."
"Take E's phone away b/c....."
"Are you going to......Will you tell him....."
"I think we should........"

What to do?? What to do?? Not sure what to do about this?

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Submitted by Wifi on Tue, 11/06/2007 - 11:32am

The judge signed off on the new parenting plan and child support yesterday!!!! We are now in Joint Custody, 50/50, equal rights and whatever else we can call it!!!!Yippeee!!!

Old plan (so on Nov 1)= We pay $525 on the 1st & 15th, along with (a court ordered) $250 (on the 1st) to one of the children's coaches.

New plan (Nov 5)= We pay $237.50 on the 1 & 15th along with (a non-court ordered) $125 to the coach/ half of the payment for the month.

To good to be true-about custody! I need help with this one..........................

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Submitted by Wifi on Mon, 09/24/2007 - 5:39pm

So after four years of failed attempts/conversations about joint custody his ex finally says "ok."
We both are in shock!- it is to good to be true.
Mainly b/c oldest(16) goes to school in our district and the school asked to look over the Parenting Plan and decided he should go to the school in her area b/c she is Primary custodial parent.
So she calls my H and says "ok, we will do joint custody. one week on- one week off- but you will still owe me child support-so we will lower it to $700.00 (instead of the $1400.00 we give her now.)"

Yes, This is great news!

He did not even say "Happy Mother's Day," until I said something.........

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Submitted by Wifi on Mon, 05/14/2007 - 1:48pm

I was not expecting much. Maybe a card? Maybe some flowers? From him- not the kids. Saying something like- Thank you for taking such good care of the kids and our family.

But I let yesterday morning go by and nothing. Then I said that it hurt my feelings that he did not even ackknowledge 'saying HMDay to me?' Then he says "well for what it is worth HMday". That is all.

I did not think I would be upset if no one said anything to me yesterday, but boy was I wrong. I got so upset.

Now I understand ........but I am afraid of what I might do.

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Submitted by Wifi on Tue, 05/08/2007 - 2:44pm

Now I get it. How a child can live in your home (40% of the time)recieve all the love and attention you and your husband can muster and then go to his BM and tell her how bad you hate it when you are with them.

(Now keep in mind when I was a youngin and my BM did not like my SM, I would do the same thing. I talked horribly about my SM. And this would make my mom feel better (by securing her position) and yet me more loved- so I thought.?)

What is appropriate in this situation? What is your experience? Them or us.

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Submitted by Wifi on Wed, 03/28/2007 - 4:59pm

Them = BM & BF seeing the psychologist every other week to discuss SS's(15 yrs old)progress and behaviors regarding his grades, his attitude, his lying, his activity in drugs, and just the ever so present- disciplining difference that occurs between the two households.

OR

Us = BF & me(stepmom) seeing the psychologist everyother week (or even all of us together BM,step-dad- Bf,step-mom) to discuss all of circumstances concerning SS's behaviors.

What pisses me off! And do you agree or disagree?

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Submitted by Wifi on Fri, 02/02/2007 - 9:15am

When we make it a point to respect the children's mother no-matter what. (I do not care for her one bit and have said my fair share about her to my H, family and friends but never in front of, or to the kids) I do not even allow my H's parents to trash BM (which they love to do, and sometimes do in front of the kids) I say how inappropriate it is everytime. I am well aware she is their Mother and even though I do not agree with her on a lot of issues, I have a healthy boundary in understanding this concept. With that said...

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