So...

As I have explained before, there is a mortgage mod that Skeletor wants him to sign. He promised me he wouldn't sign it. As she has been trying to mod her house for the next 35 years with two different mortgages, FDH has been trying to refinance his house to take her OFF of it so that we can move on with our lives. Apparently, Colorado (where his house is located) is not a community property state and will not recognize the community property agreement that is in place between FDH and Skeletor. That means that they have to get a quit claim deed and have it signed. Well even though their agreement says that the parties are required to sign anything or assist with anything for the enforcement of the document, she won't sign his unless he signs hers. She said, in writing that if he doesn't sign hers, she will pay the lower amount anyway. The purpose of the agreement is to SEPARATE the properties, so he is not required by the agreement to sign hers, but she is required to sign his. We can take her to court, we will win and she will have to pay our attorney's fees. The problem is that FDH will lose his interest rate for his refi if it is not done now. His credit will be further screwed up and who knows how long it is going to take to get it fixed from BM's mortgage indiscretions. I want her name OFF the house in Colorado far more than I care if his name is on her crap. We don't want to have to go to court because the kids already believe their mom that she is a victim and their "rich" dad is just trying to screw her.

I feel so defeated. I hate this woman so much after all of this. I envy all of you whose BM's are deceased. I wish ours would become that way. I wish she would just go away and leave us alone.