Hey everyone and thank you for allowing a safe outlet place.

To start, I have 2 girls of my own and my spouse has 2 of his,an 11yo boy and 7yo girl.  From the start I noticed that both of them had social issues.  Originally thought ADHD, but as I practically begged for him to get the tested, his son came back with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and his daughter is on the autism spectrum as high functioning.  This has taken a huge toll financially and to our relationship as far as time, him shutting down and a general anxiety in the house.