Has anybody else experienced the hurt that you feel your DH lives a double life with two families. I know that nothing will change the fact that his kids are part of his life but when he goes behind your back to visit adult daughter and grand skid and doesn't share it with you to deliberately withhold I feel it is lying. It is not him visiting it is withholding the truth. When I found out and asked him he blew up and told me he doesn't have to tell me- what is it I don't get- I thought relationships are built on honesty and sharing your life together and what happens in your day.

I am so proud of myself. It goes to show doesn't matter how many discussions about not wanting to be involved with the adult skids, the deluded DH keeps on believing I want to be involved. DH asked if I would like to go out to lunch with him and the adult skid for her birthday--I explained to him we have discussed this before, I'm not interested and the truth be known she wouldn't want me there anyway---enough is enough after 16 years--- who wants to listen to a 25 year tell everyone how great she is---I wanna vomit!!!

Is it unfair to request to DH to ask the adult skids and grandchild to ring to check to see if it is ok to come around. I'm getting fed up as I work all week, DH works long hours and the weekend time is precious, we have demands of sports with our two son's 10&11, which leaves little down time with the family. A few times we have as a family been enjoying a movie together or just being by ourselves as a family. It really makes me cringe when they come around uninvited- without any regard to our time, never ring beforehand. I have raise this issue with DH and he gets all defensive.