You bet. Mine look down their noses at everything and the funny thing is that they are much better off financially now then they were when their parents were together. Mom didn't have a job and wouldn't get a job and dad was the sole provider. Now mom had to get a job, dad has to pay exorbitant amount of support and they freeload off my generosity. LOL!

My skids aren't teens yet, but I have raised three teens and they all think like this most of the time!!!!!!!

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

I used to be a SM to a teen but it was his father that had the attitude of entitlement for his son if that makes sense. The problem was that my EX H felt very strongly that as much as his son was given, and as much as was done for him, nothing was ever enough. The boy could have been wiping with toilet paper spun from solid gold and my Ex H would have complained that it wasn't made of platinum. Sometimes the problem isn't the child, it's the parent. Children become entitled and unappreciative because their parents raised them in a way that reinforced this mentality.

"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."

i kind of agree with you, but you and DH have to set the rules and the kids must understand that if the rules are broken then there are consequences...but the bottom line you and DH have to be on the same sheet...cant be a division

You have also just described my sd to a tee. Unfortunately, she has an attitude that she should always get and do whatever it is that she wants. She is a bit out of control in my opinion but dh thinks that I am over-reacting. Consequently, I have had comments from people who have no clue about the situation that have noticed her behavior. It is sad, because I do care for her but I am not allowed to say ANYTHING at all unless it is positive about her. I also agree about being on the saem page. It is a must but also very difficult when you have bio parents who get all bent out of shape when you try to say something to them about their precious offspring.

It's not you. And in fairness it's not just teens in two homes. But two homes with parents who don't communicate well or are vying for who's the favorite parent, I think it's quite common.

True that teens in general will go through a healthy, normal narcissistic period. Maybe we SM's sometimes are more sensitive to it because we tend to be people who tend to be more selfless, at least those of us who come to sites like this. I really do think there are character traits that make us more likely to take on these roles, and above that, to seek out support to continue in these roles despite having our life's energy sucked out of us day in and day out. I witness the selfishness in my own biokids too and I address it every chance I get...because I'm very sensitive and aware. If a kid...say your Skids (mine too) have grown up thinking it's normal, acceptable and have also been rewarded for it rather than being corrected or at least made aware that it is not an attractive way to be...well, that explains some of it I think. Not to minimize the guilt-parenting affects and injustice that gets perpetrated as the become PIGS....I think the million dollar question for me is WHEN do we stop excusing or rationalizing the way they ARE and hold them responsible for it? I think it begins before 18 but it sure ends up getting a lot of negative comments if you hold a 'minor's' behavior against them....I don't get it.

Sounds like my ss15 to a tee. I get so mad because everyone has waited on him hand and foot here, and then he expects the same thing. Tough I am not anyones maid.