My husband and I have been 2gether for 12 years, he has helped me raise my 2 boys, high school graduates, 1 of which had a few semesters in college....but he has a daughter that was just turning 3 when we got 2gether, the BM has never really let go of him, where I did not speak with my ex to share and co parent, it is a complete different situation with her, she kept the child sick for a long time when all she needed was an E.N.T.