WHO THROWS THEIR OWN KID UNDER THE BUS?
So, I'am a little not shocked at the moment.
First the other day my husband and i get sd and bio kids new baby chicks we live one a farm.
We told biomom and sd she had to be good for so many more days to get more chicks. ok well
Guess what bio mom shows up at our front door with sd and her new baby chick.
Hmmmmm, think she did it to spite us? Of course she did. This woman lives in a housing development, why would she need a chicken?
So hubby texts Ex she claims she did not know we said sd had to wait. Even though I know I told her.
SD comes home now she is grounded but swears up and down she told her bio mom.
We go to church Sd now asks to call her mom. We have no clue why. She calls and ask her why she lied and said I told you my dad said no. Bio mom instead of taking the blame for her child then throws her under the bus
Now if it were my kids even if they were wrong I would take the blame, to save them from being in trouble. I would have been an adult and said no I was not supposed to get the chick and I apologize please dont take it on my child.
Of course BM in her own world thinks she never does anything wrong.
More intresting facts...
Our family joined the ymca, bio mom now wants to join
We got SD involved along with bio kids into 4h now bio mom wants to be all up in that. She tried emaling the host of 4h to get the info... little did she now thats a family friend.
This woman the bio "mom" hates God does not like church, We are Mormon know she wants to go to our church to watch.
We have a lifted truck bio mom know wants to lift her boyfriends truck who is like 25 years older then her
Anything we try to do with our family Bio Mom trys to get right in the middle.
Want some more????
Bio MOM dyed her hair the same color as mine so she could look like me...
More???
I have a feed store 1/2 a mile from my house my friends work at instead of bio mom going to one near her house she drives into another county just to go to mine.
Bio mom sleeps with her ex husband ( my husbands) brother.
The list could go on and on and on
Any thoughts on how I should handle this?
Oh and she does not pay CS, she actually wants us to take away the majority of the past child support to a thousand dollars. Does she only think her kids worth a thousand bucks?
So Much more but just wanted to post a little at a time
Oh and she is probably stalking this website right now, to watch me. I cant even have this page to myself
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I would send
that baby chick back. Drive her over to BMs with the chick in hand and give it to her. Let her know that since there seems to be some confusion on who is or is not telling the truth you are returning the chick.
I bet your SD thought that since BM brought it she won't get in trouble and you would let her keep it. Believe me, you want to let SD know that is doesn't matter if BMs calls about something or drops something off that it is your house--your rules.
MHHMMM
Exactly! Thank You
Right there with you.
I am right there with you ,but I have 2 SS 9 and 11. The 9yo just lies to save face for mom , but isn't very good at it yet. The SS11 has learned to play BM and DH against each other like a fiddle. He knows we have rules in this house and they have none at her's. They don't shower for a week at a time or brush their teeth at her house and that's ok cuz we end up paying the med/dental bills even though they per divorce they are suppose to split the bill. We forbid a myspace page for SS11 since there are too many weirdo's on the web, what's mom do... starts him one up, then claims we never told her we said no. Now SS11 knew it was wrong but BM tld him I have some authority over you too. He wanted a cell phone which he didn't need and she goes along with it, not to add the her plan but says "Ask your Dad to add you to his." She calls his pay as you go phone nowinsteadof the house so much he has stopped taking it back and forth and it now sits dead on the mantel. She gave the last one away without asking him. Nice. We also joined our local YMCA now she wants to join. How about you pay us what you owe before you join anything else.
Geesh
Sounds like the BM is lost in her own little world. She has never heard of co-parenting. That cell phone thing is horrible. I would be pissed as hell if I where you. I know how you feel about the YMCA. Our BM owes us thousands of dollars instead she wants to pay to stalk us at YMCA and get my SD's nails done. You would think she would pay what she owes before the attorney general puts her in jail.
Let's Hope
Let's hope attending church will teach her some valuable lessons. After all, if she takes the discussions and joins, she will likely want to go through the temple. She can't get a temple recommend unless she is current on her child support. That will have one of two effects on her -- A) she will get her butt in gear and pay it or
she'll quit going to church. If it gets to be too much you can get your bishop and stake president to intervene and either have your family or BM go to a different ward.
The other thing is when the child support builds up enough, press charges! That will send a strong message. I'd also keep a log of all the things she purchases to show that she did have the money but just chose not to fulfill her obligation to her children.
Best of luck to you!
Thank You
Thank You thats a great idea. I will get started on that log, we have court tomorrow.
Yeah its pitfully she puts nails before her child.