Ok, I tried and then tried some more to make the unworkable work with this guy. Everything is roses until his 14 yr sd calls or visits. Our wedding is in 6 weeks and his daughter asks for a 2 week vacation (she will fly here from Germany) and the 2 of them have planned a 5 night get away together (without me) to the mountains. They are getting a honeymoon style cabin in the woods (6 hour drive away) with a heart shaped tub in the 1 bedroom cabin with a hot tub on the porch with a "lovers view" of the mountains.