You're not married to this man, and it doesn't sound like things will get any better. Check out the blogs of people with teenage and adult stepkids. These stepkids have turned into living nightmares of humans because their biological parents refused to pull their heads out of their butts and discipline them and get them professional help.

My suggestion is to get out of this relationship. It does not seem to be having any positive effects on you. You're a free babysitter for SO's kids. He's taking advantage of you, perhaps unintentionally, but he's still doing it nonetheless. You're in your 20s. You deserve to have fun. He has two kids he needs to start parenting. Maybe him actually having to deal with his kids on his own will make him step up and actually help these kids so they won't be another woman's nightmare skids when they're teens and adults.

I am in my 30s, and I am planning on leaving soon. It is horrible, but I am dealing with my boyfriend's adult kids, and believe me, it will get worse if their parents don't start taking control now. My bf's kids are 18, 19, and 22. They whine, manipulate, throw tantrums, and love nothing better than making him miserable. No one set boundaries when they were little, and they are nasty young adults now. I have tried to be nice, and it has gotten me nowhere. Right now, I cannot leave, because of finances, but as soon as I can, I will be gone. It hurts me badly, bc my bf is a good man. But I deserve peace, and so do you! If you can leave now, please do so. The behaviors and finances will only get worse, unless something drastically changes.

With stroppy kids nothing beats a faceful of cold water. And a firm "Stop making a fuss now, everyone thinks you are a brat."

Hey it worked with my kids and my Best Friends kids. We were at the beach one day and her daughter had a full on meltdown because she didn't get the right colour sand shovel. I walked down to the water, got a bucket of water and came back and threw it in her face. Our entire group were silenced! I waited for the fallout and being disowned by my Best Friend. I said "Lilly, I asm sick and tired of your noise, shut it NOW!". Lilly looked at her mother and my Best Friend said "Well, you shouldn't be making such a fuss and Auntie Dot was right. In fact if you start again I am going down to get water to do it again." She sat back and continued reading her book. Lilly shut up and never ever misbahaved for me again.

I think it has a chapter in history called.. The Day Auntie Dot Tried to Drown Lilly....

But if these kids are allowed to get away with murder and their father is oblivious to it, run now.

I agree run run...being married is hard enough, kids add all kinds of pressure, and these guys are young there is so much more to come, and it wont get better, and while this sucks you will end up bitter at them, not the dumbasses raising them to be that way. My husband is wonderful but very dense sometimes and we fought for 3 years over SD14, she does not live with us, so I have decided to just disengage. I also have 2 bio kids and SS11. But being a step parent is not for the faint of heart.

No way would I settle for a guy with kids if you are in your 20s - you have years to find an unencumbered man and make your 'own' family - and yes, that is what it would be, instead of the leftover problems of someone else's past! Get out while you can dear

Girl . . . you have every reason to feel the way you do. Based on how you've described yourself, you are a jewel for any man. Do not sell yourself for less than you know your worth is. You had me laughing-loudly at how you were going off (venting)! And, you feel the way you feel because you know you deserve so much more; and also, because these are not your children. Whatever you do, know your worth & do not settle for what you know you're not built for. You're too young to be tolerating such nonsense. Let go & enjoy your life Ms. RN; you don't need this mess in your life (wrecking your nerves). Be patient & await your Prince-Charming! Good luck to you.