SM of officially 6. 1 lives with DH and I. He is 19 with a learning disability. BM walked out on him 7 years ago and took his 3 sisters with her. Very little to no contact for the past 4 years. SS is "too stupid to be part of her gene pool" is what BM said to her son. Been with DH for 7.5 years now. For the years that we had no contact with "them", life got easy and into a rhythm. In February 2013, they came back into the picture. The oldest SD hates her father.