This has been such a hard week. After 6+ years, SD12 has done a complete 180 and become distant from me. No more hugs before bed every night, talking to me about anything, and she only talked to me twice last week, when she wanted something from me. I did help her with her first request (she wanted to borrow sandals), but the second request (wanting me to talk to DH about being allowed to hang out with a friend she is not allowed to hang out with now), I denied. That's when I recognized I was being manipulated to get what she wanted. You got a no from him, I'm not going to bat for you when you no longer will even talk to me. 
 

It should look be noted that I pulled her aside this week and asked her if something was wrong, if I had done something, etc- I was met with mumbled no's, and her saying she was distancing herself from everyone because of "stuff she was going through", which she wouldn't tell me. (It's somewhat manufactured drama with a boy, I know). The next night she only talked to me to Inform me she had told her brother about her "stuff she was going through", as well as her mom, and then said goodnight and went to bed without a hug. Um, ok! Not sure what the point of telling me that was.
 

Tonight: I played kickball with one of her teachers. I mentioned that we were really going through it with SD, and he immediately was like, oh yeah,and told me that last week, he mentioned to SD that he played kickball with her Stepmom, and she said, you mean my dad's wife? He said, no your SM. She said, no that's my dad's wife. He told her that she needs to call me her SM, I'm not just her dad's wife. And honestly, skids drive me crazy, but SD and I especially have always had a great relationship, so this sudden change is making my head spin and catching me off guard. I don't know what to do or how to handle it. I told DH about it and he hugged me and he said he's going to take her to a Dr's appt tomorrow, so he's going to talk to her. He doesn't think it's acceptable at all. 
 

Making things even more difficult is Crazy had made our lives hell this week. Constant messages about bullshit. She wants to send us MONEY ORDERS to pay for her portion of SS16's Insurance! No, this isn't 1998, and we aren't making you pay this! She can give SS the $ if she wants, otherwise he just owes us 2/3 of the cost. We don't take money orders!  DH made the mistake of mentioning this to SD as Crazy was being difficult about it, and SD proceeded to tell DH that "mom pays for this and that and YOU DON'T". (She's talking about Crazy buying her a water bottle and some other crap). But SD was acting like DH doesn't pay for Things and Crazy does. OMG. DH pays $650/month in CS, plus the majority of expenses. We have them 50%! SD always comes to Crazy's defense and believes DH is the bad guy. She has also been snotty with him recently and he feels a difference with him also. 
 

My dilemma: We are taking skids to South Dakota next week, leaving Wed, coming back Mon- Driving. I've expressed my hesitations to DH about it being too long and wanting to leave Thurs- what if we get sick of each other, etc. We did a week in Mexico and we all agreed it was too long. DH has offered to get 2 hotel rooms for our first night because the last time we stayed in a hotel room with skids it was awful (this would just be the stopover night to break up the drive, the rest of the time we have an airbnb). He also told me we could go out at night if we need a break without skids since they are old enough to stay at the Airbnb alone, told me I could drink in the car on the way., lol..whatever I need! But now I found out SD said I'm "her dad's wife", and not her SM. It changes things for me, and Part of me doesn't even want to go on this trip:. I don't want to be where I'm not wanted. I am truly Thrown offf by this. 
 

Thoughts?