Yesterday was exchange day, SS came by us- part of me thought SD14 might show up after all, but she did not. We are offically in week 1 of the 4wks of SD staying with Crazy FT. It's honestly pretty glorious.

DH said he just isn't thinking about it or focusing on it and he feels there's nothing he can do anyway so he's in a pretty good place, which makes me feel less guilty for being relieved she isn't here. It feels like a weight has been lifted. That girl is drama. Both of these kids are really. Don't get me wrong, I feel like this is NOT the best thing for her whatsoever, but at the same time forcing a kid to be here who is clearly PAS'd and doing whatever she can to get attention in an unhealthy way while she torments everyone else is not the solution either. 

SS17 had a basketball game, so we didn't even see him last night at all, which I take as another small win because every Monday is spent with DH yelling at him about all of the crap SS let go during the week. Apparently it is just impossible to follow the clear, manageable expectations DH has set. Like, go to your classes, actually TRY in school, and work at least 1 day a week. DH looked at our Ins. app (which he never does, he would rather stick his head in the sand) and saw that not only did SS not go to his college class yesterday, he hasn't worked in over a week- he was living his best life, flitting all over, going to see his ex gf, and then going to see his current gf the next day. Which is not ok with me, because these girls do not know. DH was looking at the app yelling out the things he was finding, ("Well he didn't make any trips to work this wknd! Me: Yeah I saw that but wasn't going to say anything...he Actually hasn't gone since Feb 4th.... DH: *looks again* For F*cks sake, Why is this hard??). DH proceeds to light SS up via text, SS responds with excuses like always, which DH was relaying to me but I didn't even want to hear because I honestly don't even believe since SS has lied to our face repeatedly and my trust is gone. DH was so aggravated at SS because this is the pattern every single week. DH looks at SS's grades and sees he's getting F's. Or that SS didn't go to class, or to work, or he lied to us. Because SS is LAZY.  Literally one of the laziest kids I've met. But at the same time, DH has told SS he needs to be sending him his work schedule, but SS doesn't and DH doesn't follow-through. If SS knew DH would be seeing his schedule, you can bet that SS would be working more. But when he's at Crazy's, he rarely works, and DH doesn't follow-through with making SS send his schedule, so we are in this cycle of insanity where SS will only change if held accountable, but he isn't since DH thinks repeatedly yelling about the same thing is the answer. 

Last night DH said they can both stay at Crazy's house FT if this is how they are going to act. I thought, Don't even JOKE DH! As it is, I've already let myself consider that if this thing with SD continues and she ends up staying with Crazy FT, SS will be leaving for college in Aug- which means we would be kid-free in MONTHS. I would be surprised if it happens and for DH's sake I hope it doesn't, but can you imagine? 

ETA: SD blocked both DH and I on Snapchat, and at least me (I assume him also) on Text. She had told DH that he Didn't buy a safe for her meds when she started making suicidal statements, that we "already had one". So I tried to snapchat her the receipt and noticed I was blocked, and text her instead. SD just text me that she "has me blocked so she doesn't know how that text came through on her watch", and that she "has no contact with her father" so she doesn't want me to contact her either, and some other crap that doesn't make sense, and that we have caused her "so much trauma" by laughing at her wanting to kill herself. This is literally insane.- We did not laugh at her wanting to khs. We have taken this seriously for almost 2YRS. DH set up counseling immediately, plus an appt. with a psychiatrist, I gave her the suicide hotline # and researched outpatient programs, DH bought a safe for meds, took her to the hospital when she made threats, slept in the living room with her overnight when she made threats, we had endless talks. Her mom told her she wasn't serious and did nothing. You can't even fight against this. It's infuriating to be the villains in a made-up world.