I have been in my stepdaughter's life for 5 years. I have always treated her and loved her as my own. Although I will never be her mother nor want to replace her mother I call her my daughter. I feel as if calling her my "stepdaughter" is an insult to her and to my husband. I feel that I would be saying that I don't think that she is a part of my life and that just because I didn't give birth to her that she is not mine. I think that it is insulting to treat her as differently than our other 2 sons.