I have four tough jobs, first two I can handle: being a mom to two teens and working full-time in an office. Second two are the hardest: stepmom to a teen and wife to a deployed soldier.

My husband deployed back in June. He has twin boys from previous marriage. One of the boys live with his mom (due to he pulled a knife on one of my kids, angry at me, yelled at me, and punched his father). The other twin was placed in the juvenile facility for fights, drugs, and thefts. Right before my husbands deployment,, the twins mom informed my husband she couldn't handle both boys due to she has 4 other kids of her own. My husband tried to find anyone to watch his son after his release from juvie whilst deployed but every single one of them stated he was way too much to handle. So I was last resort.

I went to every single court date for my stepson, I visited him in juvie (only one who visited him) I sent money for him to buy basic supplies. I also worked on getting him back into regular school (he was expelled from 4 schools due to truancies, fights and drugs). When he was released the first time I picked him up. Within two weeks he cut off his ankle bracelet and was missing for a week. So he was back in juvie. I requested for him to go to drug counseling camp which he did. Once again I was the one who visited him. When he was released I brought him home.

First few days were fine, I was managing. Trying to get all boys to get along. Within a week he started cutting class at the school I begged for a second chance. I asked his dad who was deployed to call and talk to him. To see if that was getting to him. All went down hill. My stepson did not come home some nights, sometimes he did but you could tell he was on drugs. I had the police over twice to talk to him when he kept running away. But nothing helped. His dad called again and tried to tell him he needs to follow rules etc. His aunt contacted me to say I haven't updated her on how my husbands deployment is. I expressed what was happening w my stepson. She stated he needs to be emancipated, out of the house. She was offering to come by and "yell" at him to get sense back. But she said he cannot go to her house. I declined her offer. He didn't need yelling at, he needed to see more than me supporting him. Within another week the school kicked him out for carrying controlled substance.

After his father skyped with him one last time, my stepson decided to runaway again. This time he left a goodbye note. Saying due to his dads deployment and upsetting him he can't stay. He took $100 from my boys piggy bank, one of their iPods and a bag of clothes. I was hurt. I gave the info to the police. Within two days my stepson left a vm saying he is ok. I told his dad I didn't know what else to do. I was basically alone. His dad said to toss his clothes and focus on my boys and try to get through this deployment. ( this was only October).

One week later I received a call from a police officer. My stepson was passed out in a park, high on computer cleaner, weed and cough syrup. He was also drunk from vodka. He was rushed to the hospital. I was told I need to come due to he is a minor. I sent a message to his dad about an emergency. I left my boys at home alone and rushed to the hospital. Stepson was hooked up on oxygen due to his heart rate and difficulty breathing. When he saw me he started balling. He kept saying he is sorry, his moms never there, his dads gone and he didnt mean to take the money. His dad was able to call and spoke to my stepson which my stepson responded that I'm the only one who is always there. It did bring tears to my eyes.

I left the hospital at 4am to get two hours of sleep and get my sons up for school. After dropping them off at school my stepson was released. I brought him home gave him some of his dads pjs and went to work for a few hours. I contacted his probation officer and she wanted to pick him up for the numerous violations. I went home at lunch, chit chatted w my stepson until his po picked him up. I turned on the tv and noticed something was ordered on pay perview During a four hour time frame my stepson ordered 8 pornographic movies. I was like man anything else.

Few days later his probation officer called to say my stepson had another court date. I couldn't do it anymore. I was drained. I couldn't let my stepson think I will always bail him out. So I didn't have to go. He was sent to juvie for a month, the po tried to see if I would be there to get him. I told her to try his family first I have gone through so much. Nobody else offered. His father called to say he needs to go in placement. Two weeks later, my stepson left a message saying if I wanted to start talking again, and if I would visit him. A week after that I received a letter from him saying how upset and hurt he is at me for calling his po. He can't believe I got him arrested. He stated that he thought I loved him. That letter made me collapse to my knees in tears. I ripped up the letter and cried. I told his dad what happened, and he asked me to mail the letter to him, even though its ripped. So I did. I expressed to his father that this was my final straw. All I have done and my stepson put the blame on me. My husband contacted the court and stated my stepson cannot have anymore contact with me.

Two weeks go by and I receive a bill for $8000 in my name for my stepsons time in juvie. The courts want my income and me to pay. I was listed as "mother". I contacted the courts to say I am not his mom I need the bill to be sent to his dad and his mom. I had to get a letter, proof I wasn't the mom and an address of his mom. I received another letter stating the courts could garnish my wages. So I am non stop getting my name removed. I explained to my husband what is occurring. ( when my husband comes home we will be just depending on my income). He contacted the courts finally my name is cleared.

Stepsons aunt emailed me again due to I haven't kept them updated on how my husband is doing. I explained what occurred, and she was like he needs to be emancipated on his own, old enough to know right from wrong. I expressed how hard it was to get my name listed as mother from the court papers.

Past few weeks were ok, until recently my husband called to say that his twins have been non stop calling my husbands mom. That his son can have at home visits. He then informed me that his aunt allowed and okd his son to have weekend visits with her. I was shocked. He stated how he received a letter from his son basically saying that his dad has left him for this new family and that his old family is there for him.

My husband emailed his aunt, and she did admit that his son does visit. She states he is doing great, how teens will be teens. She cannot believe I made the courts take mother off of the court papers and how I won't visit. She states that when my husband comes home he needs to work on the family due to the boys didn't asked to be born. She stated that my stepson never blames me, or states that he started new life. But she still never gets regular updates from me how my husband is doing. I was so hurt. I'm like nobody wanted to help. Nobody was there, and now she is there. I made a website for his family with updates so they can check, after three months of them not looking I stopped. I had my boys to take care of too, I also worked. Having to do the basic daily routine on my own is tough and draining.

Now it turns out that my husbands mother, few different aunts are all visiting my stepson. Saying to my husband how much he has changed, give him another chance. Where were they before the deployment? Where were they when my stepson needed his family? Now they want a pat on the back for great help.

My husband comes home next month. The courts want to know if his son should stay in this residential program or released. I have my concerns, the tension between my boys and his will be high. The trust he broke from me, the hurt he caused, the blame he and also his aunt put on me. My husband leaves again in august, if my stepsons home will it be same thing.