Okay I have been married for 3 yrs now and I have a SS that's going to be 9 yrs old and I don't have any feeling for him. I don't miss him when he is with his bio mom for the week. I would careless if he is with us or not. My husband notices these things and keeps bringing them up and telling me you don't know what it feels like to have a wife you love not love your own child. I don't know how to change this. I have had drama in the past with his bio mom and she has talked craped in front of him about me and etc..