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The Entitlement Continues

the_stepmonster's picture

SD10 decided this weekend that her and the girl next door should go around raising money for Kony 2012. I have my own opinions on Kony 2012 but was surprised she was wanting to do something to benefit someone other than herself. DH said no way she was going door-to-door and said she could have a lemonade stand instead.

So on Sunday morning, off they went to get lemonade stand supplies. SD10 and her little friend made signs and put them up around the neighborhood saying "Stop Kony!" and "He turns children in killers!" and whatnot. They made the lemonade and went out to the curb to sell it. They were outside for maybe 2 hours before getting bored, which is alot longer than I thought she could entertain herself, and made around $20. They spent the rest of the afternoon playing Just Dance and squealing and running inside the house.

It wasn't until later that I realized that SD and her little friend split the money evenly and called it a day. Now. I know $20 isn't alot to give to charity, but I think it is so wrong to put up flyers and get money from people under the pretense that you are giving it to a good cause. Even if they had given half of it away to a homeless person, that would have been better than keeping all of it for candy or whatever. I asked DH what he thought about it and he basically ignored me and changed the subject. I brought it up again and he said "it wasn't a lot of money." But it just seems so wrong to me. Of course since she is the favorite, she will never face any consequences, just like she will continue to bang on our bedroom door every morning and will continue to sit in my husband's lap until she is 16 years old. I am really starting to dislike this child.

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forestfairy's picture

I agree, it's wrong. It's fraud and illegal actually. If she were my kid she'd be working off that $20 by spending the day volunteering in a soup kitchen or some other charity.

ThatGirl's picture

There is no way in hell I would let them keep that money. They need to pay you back for lemonade supplies (unless you were willing to donate that) and give the rest to the cause they used to get it. Next thing you know, SD will be out asking for money at the corner gas station. Is this really how he wants to raise his little girl?

Ommy's picture

I think that it is wrong. That is just as bad as the "homeless" that stand out with the signs that say "vet" or "need money for food not booze" and then what do they go and do by booze or you can see a group siting under a tree drinking and they take turns on the corner. It is wrong. What next is his daughter going to do a car wash for the nearest pet shelter and keep that money too.

It is up to the PARENTS to teach the CHILDREN right from wrong and to help them develop a good foundation for the values they will have for the rest of their life. Your SO doesn't seem to hold his daughter to a high value standard. It is said.

the_stepmonster's picture

It doesn't make any sense to me. This is the man that wants to voluntarily give half the CS money we no longer have to pay to BM to the grandparents for taking care of SD10 and SD5, when they are the ones who lied about BM's drinking problem and took the two girls behind his back so he wouldn't know about the Lunatic's issues. Guess how much of the CS the Lunatic was giving her parents for protecting her and taking care of her children? Zero. This is also the man who volunteers on a regular basis and gives 10% of his salary to United Way. How could he be comfortable raising a child like this?? It's completely mind-boggling.

the_stepmonster's picture

I'm not sure if he didn't realize it until after she went back to her grandparents, if he was embarrassed by her selfishness, or really and truly thought "It's JUST $20." Whatever the reason, I am really disappointed in him and I know he won't bring it up with her again.

forestfairy's picture

Yeah, it has nothing to do with the money, it's the principle. He could teach her a lesson that's much more valuable than $20. Sad

the_stepmonster's picture

The sad thing is that they didn't have to say they were raising money for charity. If they had a lemonade stand just to make money, people would have still come by and bought lemonade from 2 little girls trying to make a couple dollars. SD10 is a manipulative brat and probably figured she could get alot more money out of people if she said the money was going to a good cause. If this was my child there is no way she would be keeping that money, but I have more or less disengaged from her. It's the only way I can keep my sanity when she's around.

Helena.Handbasket's picture

That's what I mean. I'm sure he didn't realize until after the fact, but now he's just letting it go. This girl is going to be hell later.

instantfamily's picture

I'm with you. DH would not hear the end of it until he snatched the money back and called the other parent to turn in their little thief, too! SD6 stole a piece of candy from our local grocery- that's a lot less than $20.00- and DH marched her happy little but over there to apologize and pay for it with her money. You know what happened? The checker looked at her very seriously and thanked her for coming clean and told her not to steal from him again, then turned to DH and says, "nice parenting dad, I don't know if I'd have had the guts to do that" and smiled at him. People appreciate when you do the right thing, especially when you teach your kids to do the right thing. I don't know OP's situation with SD, but if SO wouldn't do it I'd do it in a heartbeat, and perhaps charge interest! }:)