Denial
After this weekend I finally fully came to the realization that all would be great if it weren't for SD10. SD10 has been completely spoiled and ruined by her grandparents. She gets what she wants when she wants it and she expects that to happen to her everywhere, including our house. Listening to her talk back to my husband fills me with such distaste. In the mornings, despite DH telling her repeatedly not to knock on our bedroom door, she consistently gets up at 7:30am, knocks and knocks until he answers and will sorrowfully tell him "I'm booooored!" or "it's 7:30, when are you getting up?!" or "I'm hungry, make me some breakfast!" In my opinion 10 is old enough to entertain yourself for a bit and know how to pour yourself a bowl of cereal. Then when he does get up and start making something she starts with the rude questions/demands/attitude "Is it ready yet? Well how long until its ready? That's it?!" During this time she will repeatedly pick on her 5 year old sister For the sake of being mean. For some reason unbeknownst to me DH treats her like she is his favorite. I don't know why and if I had to rank for most to least favorite she would definitely not be at the top of my list.
This afternoon I went to the grocery store. DH asked of I could buy some tear free baby shampoo since we will need some anyway for the baby and its about time we started teaching SD5 how to wash her own hair. SD10 saw the shampoo bottle and immediately said (in her attitude-filled voice:
SD: "What's that for? The baby isn't even here yet."
DH: "The baby is going to be here really soon though, so we need to be prepared."
SD: "No he's not."
DH: "Seriously. SM is due in like 2 weeks."
SD: "Whatever, you're exaggerating."
DH: "I'm not actually. He's going to be here before you know it."
SD: Turns and walks off.
Now before you all start saying "Oh she's just acting out because of the baby" or "oh that poor misunderstood child" keep in mind she was bratty before knowing I was pregnant. She is like this because she is spoiled through and through. How can 3 children be raised the same and only one of them come out like this?? She is going to be in for a ride awakening when this baby is born and they finally move in.
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That is awful. My SS9 gets
That is awful. My SS9 gets whatever he wants from grandparents or BM. Luckily FDH has no problem saying no. For a while SS used to tell us that BM would help us out since we were poor. I got pissed and told FDH he needed to clue SS in on BM not having money for a place to live and he didn't need to get everything he wanted. Grandparents can't be told no but luckily they won't have the money to keep up and soon BM won't be able to afford the expensive big ticket items he is going to start wanting.
You need DH to keep a rein on her and time outs when she gets snotty may help.
I'm so glad yall understand.
I'm so glad yall understand. She has a bad habit of taking things that aren't hers and claiming them also. DH had an old laptop he let the kids use while they were over and she decided it was hers and started taking it home with her. He had an iTouch that she "borrowed", filled with dumb apps, and subsequently lost. The list goes on. He says he doesn't care bc it's just "stuff" but maybe that's what he should be teaching her instead of brushing off her self-centeredness.
She moves in at the end of the semester. I am not looking forward to it. She gets on my last nerve but I am sure I will write about the day I finally go off on her.
Don't you love the "I'm
Don't you love the "I'm booored!"!!!!! My FSD is also 10 and it's the same. The difference is that in my home FDH thinks everything the little beast does is cute. Is your FDH the same? "Oh she has stuffed her face with potatoes and is now spitting it all over the table... How cute!" "Hahaha... Look at xxxxxxx pulling the flowers out of the ground and throwing them in the air... She's so damn cute!" cute my fucking ass :sick:
Check and check. She is
Check and check. She is completely incapable of self-entertaining. The child has a tablet (courtesy of grandma and grandpa), a laptop, a Wii (given to me for Christmas by my mother and taken over by her), an XBOX 360, etc, etc... But she cannot do anything without her daddy. Even when they all go play in the pool she is crying "Daddy, make up a game for us! Daddy, come swim with us! Daddydaddydaddy!" I think he secretly loves the attention but has finally noticed that sometimes its a little creepy, like when she wants to wear his shirts to bed, despite having tons of clothes. Or like when she always HAS to sit right next to him to the point where she always has one hand on him. She is the only one not excited about the baby. SD11 and even SD5 are excited and are always saying they want to buy stuff for their baby brother.
It seems there's always one
It seems there's always one daughter closer to dad than the rest... Yours sounds like the 10yr old. We may be dating the same man bc I think we're dealing with the same child! The difference is my FDH is a Disney dad and LOVES the attention FSD gives him. I'm surprised she hasn't crawled up his ass bc she's certainly on him all the time.
And wtf is it with these 10 year olds not being able to do anything themselves!?! Just like your situation, even in the pool when FSD has friends over she's still hanging on daddy's neck and she grabs his face, puts hers right up to his and jumps up and down while making "oh oh oh oh oh" noises. Her friends have left before bc she wants to play with dad more than friends.
I'm in the process of reading up on disengaging in order to retain what little sanity I have left.