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Well my time is coming to a end.

tazz63's picture

Well today I talked to hubby about his bad ass son he said that I could leave the home cause we wanted his kids there with him. I have done all I could to make him happy along with the kids. I told him they are going to grow up and leave his ass he said so. I asked him then what.They have a mother who is off again on again on drugs. And use the child support money for everything but the 2 kids. I am very upset right now and so glad that I found Step Talk.

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furkidsforme's picture

I'm not sure I follow.... he kicked you out because you said you did not want his kids living with you? And their mother is a drug addict?

tazz63's picture

She is off again on again weed and crack. His son is out of control and there is no action for the things that he do. He forged my name on some papers peepee in the hair lotion drinking the mouthwash and playing in the living room and broke a 1200.00 price of art.and hubby will not bo a dam thing to. So today I asked him if we could talk to the courts so that the kids could goback home he said that I could go they were not going anywhere.

tazz63's picture

Dtzyblnd we live in wi and bm live in omaha we just got the cs stopped in Dec 689.00 a month now she owe us and they said we have to take her to court to get the money back. There are 2 kids in my home. The 8 year old is great I got her when she was5 she loves to read and numbers are her thing. Her brother was 8 and
has been a handful from day one.

dogtac69's picture

Stop and think about what you did. You are fed up with the SKs' behavior. That is understandable. But when you told DH that he had to get rid of his children "or else", you set yourself up for him to go with the "or else." He cannot very well send his children, brats or no, back to a drug addict BM who spends the CS on everything except the kids.
If you want to keep your marriage together, talk with DH and see if something cannot be worked out, knowing that the SKs stay, at least on a part-time basis. Start by getting SS mental health care. He sounds as through he can use counseling.
And don't rush to do anything while this is fresh. Give it some thought before acting.
And think about whether you actually want to stay in the marriage. Sometimes, things simply do not work out. Good luck.

tazz63's picture

Dogtac69 these sk have been in my life for 3 years I have done all the things that you all are talking about the counseling and all. He took them out of counseling and they were doing well. Now shit has hit the fan. And hfunce is on the couch tonight. There BM functions well she just won't care for the 4 kids that she have the take care of one another.I think it is time for them to go home.

tazz63's picture

Melody3 The kids came for the summering 2012 and then they told DH what was going on I told him to work it out in court when the court date came she came and 5 min later she left so the court gave him temp custudy of the kids witha order of protection r

tazz63's picture

It was after we got married, and I told him then that I did not want to be a mother all over again, He asked me to hold on and I did I have done everything in my power to put BM back with her kids, OKAY let me tell you the real, court order, BM cannot call, talk come around Facebook cannot see smell I mean nothing, so after a year she called I talked to her and then I talked to DH and we both agreed to let her talk to them on the phone, things were going well them she asked if she could see them, DH said no but I told her that I would work on that for her, 2 weeks went by and she called again, I told her he said ok we went to is sister's house in Omaha and BM came, as soon as she got out the car she started cussing and calling DH everything but the child of God right in front of the kids, so DH asked me to take the kids back in the house and she finally left, then when we got back to WI she called to say she was sorry, I told her ok but she could not talk to the kids. So maybe 3 weeks passed she called and I told her the same thing, she told me look her bitch I will slap your face if you do not put them on the phone, I told her I was hoping she would get it together cause I don't want your kids. Now the time has come and we still have 2 more years before she can even see them. I have talked to DH and told him the next time sks do anything I am going to get in his butt. So if he won't do it I will.

CompletelyPuzzled's picture

I agree that you can't send the skids back to their mom. Unfortunately, you always have the risk of the skis living with you full-time when you marry a person with kids. There are too many things that can happen: drugs, abuse, or the other parent could even die. Your husband can't be expected to take his kid back to a BM who won't take care of him. I would turn it around on your husband. If you have the kids full time, you should parent them. I told my husband if he won't make his kids behave, then I will. I would never spank his kids, but you can enforce the rules. You can't take care of kids and have no way to make them listen. If your husband gets mad at you for parenting, tell him there is the door. He can take his kids and leave.