they are going home
Well I have talked to Dh and I told him that this was to much tor me with him doing nothing so he is going to take over and let me do me. I also told him when the order expires he has to let go. I would never hurt a child matter fact I would never hurt anyone. This is for venting. That is what I was doing. BM use drugs yes she half ass take care of her kids but they are her kids.
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Yes I am. I think the only
Yes I am. I think the only reason that he took them in was so I could take care of them. He knew what she was long before me.and he left them with her anyway.
Seriously, this all comes
Seriously, this all comes across as crewish.
My life not yours
My life not yours
If something happens to the
If something happens to the druggy BM, is the father willing to let his children go into foster care? I would think he'd divorce the SM first. Good grief.
I'm sorry, you are very
I'm sorry, you are very difficult to understand.
I thought that your last post stated you were leaving your DH?
No he told me to go
No he told me to go
I don't even think I could do
I don't even think I could do this to my DH's kids. Although I'm not budging on Redface Magee around my kids. Yep DH and I would have to split up. I can't be responsible for him sending his kids back to a druggie who can't take care of them so I would ask him to leave, I would give him time to find a place a go but there isn't much of an option here if BM1 decides to rage quit on life.
Just thinking of all the
Just thinking of all the times he's peed on furniture in our house makes me want to rage quite and have some wine.
My SD has peed on everything
My SD has peed on everything too. I have to remember if I go to someone's house that has Skids to not sit on anything.
After reading this post, I
After reading this post, I really wonder if this is fake. No offense, but it just seems very bizarre to me that a dad would ever agree to send his kids to live with a drug addict. If it is true, I feel sorry for your skids. And, I wouldn't be surprised if your DH resents you later for it.
No this is not fake it is a
No this is not fake it is a lot more to the story.
When does a custody order
When does a custody order expire? I know when me and ex first seperated there was a temp order just until all the decisions were made and the final order....was the final order.
Our custody aggreement expires once BS9 turns 18. I've never known of a custody order to expire after only a few years. Where are you from tazz?
It ends in 2017 I am from WI
It ends in 2017 I am from WI would take me years to tell the hole story Bm is not in the street she lie to the kids sociological. The wokers she smoke her weed and crack in her home. She has always done this. When shit hit the fan and the police come out she make everyone lie for her.
that is what I am saying.
that is what I am saying.
I get it, kids can be a real
I get it, kids can be a real pain in the ass. Especially kids that aren't bio yours. With that being said, I can't understand why any responsible adult would want to put a child in danger.
I have read all your blogs and frankly, they are all extremely short and vague. Please enlighten us, what exactly have these monsters done to you (and apparently your DH) would make you even entertain the idea of them living full time with an unfit adult.
The only reference to your SS was when he put his mouth on your mouthwash.
OMG Ninji lets do this, the
OMG Ninji lets do this, the sks came for the summer and they are still with us, lets start with the sd she was 5 when she came in my life, she would cut things bedding shower curtains, hair, you name it she would cut it, pouring bleach all over my things on the furniture, yes she had it bad. so I talked DH into getting her some help, it worked she is great now she only cut her one time last year, but I still take her to consoling, now ss was getting help but DH did not think he need it, the things he is doing playing in the living room broke a piece of art work that was made for me by a dear friend, DH said it is your past, so nothing happened to ss he took my bill, jeweler, well what ever he thinks he can take he will, and nothing happen, he has signed my checks and tried to cash them, forged my signature on school paper's and when you ask him something all he do is lie. I have done all that I can do, just like I said they have been with BM all but 2 1/2 years, she wont hurt them they will not get the best care but they do no how to take care of themselves. It is a total of 4 kids that she have one is still with her, the other one lives with his D and SM. now their you have it.
OK. But why would you leave
OK. But why would you leave scissors and such lay around with a child who liked to snip things? Call me silly I suppose but this could have been nipped in the bud instantly and/or avoided. I'm not even going to ask why you are leaving laundry bleach out where a 5yr old can play with it. Perhaps a good book on safety proving your home from unsafe and dangerous items from young children might have been in order. I have my bleach in the laundry room in a locked cabinet *shrugs*. Besides you say the little girl doesn't do these things anymore.
Guess leaving things like a checkbook out and available or your bedroom door unlocked from a kid didn't occur to you either. Forging signatures on school crap? The horror. Wanna take a survey poll on how many other kids across America has tried this one at least once? I assume his father is capable of going into school and getting this taken care of. I doubt an 8 1/2 to 11 year old has the ability to properly write like his adult father.
The broken treasure I'm sorry about that. I'm sure the item meant a lot to you and you got angry and very disappointed...but wait for it...yep, shit happens, unfortunately so. One broken item no matter how dear it was to you is not worth banishment of a stupid kid's boyish action back to his drug addict mother.
I'm assuming the first set of children you raised many years ago were perfect walking talking little robots that never ever did anything stupid or misbehaved on occasion? Who knows what lifestyle and/or supervision these skids had prior to coming to their father. Perhaps living with a druggie mother zoned out might have had something to do with the 'wild' undisciplined children who arrived at your home in the beginning.
I hope if your older grown children have grandchildren they don't visit your home. For your sake and theirs.
Well, Marie, you really
Well, Marie, you really caught my pearls when you hauled out the lethal "not my monkey doctrine." It's unassailable. I curtsey and give you the game.
Well, the kids have two more
Well, the kids have two more years before their mother can see/have them. So I guess the kiddos are safe for now regardless of you thinking you 'won' aka, 'to hell with the kids, he picked me'. DH can tell you just about anything you want to hear currently...time will tell if he follows through with his agreement or if he just managed to get you to STFU for a while.
Yes ripley that is what I am
Yes ripley that is what I am saying, just like this morning he said can you take the kids to school I said no they can walk the sk live 5 mins from the school, well he got mad and then said can you pick them up I said no, I do everything let me map out his day for you guy's 7am up with the kids, 8:05 back in the bed, 9am up eating breakfast that I cook because my first job is done and im back home then back to bed for DH, 12:45 he up getting ready for work, 1:30 out the door, now I got to go back to work done by 5:30 home by 6pm if they have anything to do outside of the home I become taximan then home to help with homework, cook, get there things ready for the next day help with the packing lunch, 20 mins of reading then bad by 7:30,now DH is home from work at 10:30 now I cook him a hot meal he sits on his ass looking at the game eat and then go to bed, cause he so tired. Oh he off on Sunday and Monday but I better not schedule anything for him to do with his kids cause shit will hit the fan, and he has the nerve to say these are my days off I don't want to do anything, stop setting up things for me to have to do. Now that is all I do I try to set up everything on all the Mondays. lol all I want is for him to help, or they have to go deal with there mother, they wont eat as much they wont get any help with homework or anything else but she will get cs 700.00 a month, so now he can step up or they can step out. please believe she will not hurt them, they are her cash cows.
I have to say, I think the
I have to say, I think the naysayers are wrong on this......they are NOT her children, she is NOT responsible for them. Like many others here, it sounds like her DH saw Tazz as "new mommy" and proceeded to dump the kids and the responsibility on her.
Now she has had enough and is saying "no more" and her lazy DH would rather give the kids back to drug-user BM than parent his own kids.....yet this is somehow her cross to bear?
Nope, nope, does not compute. Not her monkeys, not her circus. Not sure why some are giving Tazz such a hard time, she married DH when skids were in custody with drug-user BM, but now she's a bad person because they will be going back to her???? Just because this would be a deal-breaker in some of your eyes, doesn't mean it's a one-size-fits-all issue.
Tazz raised her kids, she's done. Not wanting to raise other people's kids, much LESS some very out of control, damaged kids, is nothing to be shamed for.
While I agree that it is
While I agree that it is absolutely NOT her job to parent his kids, I personally take issue with this part of her original post:
"I also told him when the order expires he has to let go."
That's not "I'm not doing your job anymore, douchebag, time to step up!"
That's straight up telling him "When it's legal to send the kids back to their crack-whore mom's, that's where they're going."
Two different things. The first is her right - she's not the freaking nanny. The second though? Telling someone they have to send their kids away is a crappy fucking thing to do to ANYONE, let alone when you add in the "crack mom" aspect.
Don't get me wrong, I think her DH is a total asshole for giving in to her and (as someone rather colorfully put it) valuing pussy more than his kids' safety. It's just that I think she's just as bad for demanding it in the first place.