Sounds like a bunch of crazy at your house right now. Call a time-out. Go sit in your car. Take a bath and read a trashy novel. Take a break 'cuz it sounds as if you have a lot on your plate and fighting with DH is just not helping.
You may not have any choice in the matter. Read what you're writing here. You're wanting to hit a child in the mouth , you told DH to take his kids to a drug addict or else and now you're wanting to hit the man over the head. Can you say anger management issues?
Look, I 'get' it. You married a man thinking life was going to be nothing but you and he coming and going, traveling and doing as you two please. None of it has worked out to be the life you expected and thought you were signing up for.
Your DH can't just send these kids off across the country to their mother and it isn't going to happen if it could for at least two more years (not sure where/how you got that 2yr timeline). So what do you expect him to do? Call up the orphanage and tell them to come get his kids? Toss them out the door and hope they survive on their own in the world? The 'them or me' was idea you tossed at him blow up in your face. As much as you think these child should not be his problem and should be sent back to their drug addict even though the court denies her to have them, these children are very much the responsibility of their father. These are his children.
You're a fifty-something grown ass woman. You can take care of yourself and you don't need to be in this household if you're so miserable and hate the children so. I 'get it' you didn't sign up for this and you don't want to be a care giver to minor children....but your DH has no choice. You do.
So what do you think you're going to accomplish by this stance of 'you're not about to give up'? You told the guy to get rid of his kids. He told you no. So what's the game plan now? There's a whole world out there and you can certainly walk out that door and go find out. You don't want these kids around, they aren't going anywhere. You want that man careless and kidless. That isn't going to happen. So why not go find what will make you happy? You actually have two choices, adjust the parenting duties in your home to falling on your DH and finding other things to fill your time with or leave. If DH refuses to take on the parenting and disciplining of his kids, that only leaves the one choice. Pack and bags and move out. You can't beat the kid and/or husband into submission (your buns will go to jail if you cut loose and start beating on them)and you can't force your husband to change what type of parent he is. This fight you're pitching today with husband can go on and on and on. But what is it going to change?
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Sounds like a bunch of crazy
Sounds like a bunch of crazy at your house right now. Call a time-out. Go sit in your car. Take a bath and read a trashy novel. Take a break 'cuz it sounds as if you have a lot on your plate and fighting with DH is just not helping.
"He is nuts if he thinks I'm
"He is nuts if he thinks I'm about to give up."
You may not have any choice in the matter. Read what you're writing here. You're wanting to hit a child in the mouth , you told DH to take his kids to a drug addict or else and now you're wanting to hit the man over the head. Can you say anger management issues?
Look, I 'get' it. You married a man thinking life was going to be nothing but you and he coming and going, traveling and doing as you two please. None of it has worked out to be the life you expected and thought you were signing up for.
Your DH can't just send these kids off across the country to their mother and it isn't going to happen if it could for at least two more years (not sure where/how you got that 2yr timeline). So what do you expect him to do? Call up the orphanage and tell them to come get his kids? Toss them out the door and hope they survive on their own in the world? The 'them or me' was idea you tossed at him blow up in your face. As much as you think these child should not be his problem and should be sent back to their drug addict even though the court denies her to have them, these children are very much the responsibility of their father. These are his children.
You're a fifty-something grown ass woman. You can take care of yourself and you don't need to be in this household if you're so miserable and hate the children so. I 'get it' you didn't sign up for this and you don't want to be a care giver to minor children....but your DH has no choice. You do.
So what do you think you're going to accomplish by this stance of 'you're not about to give up'? You told the guy to get rid of his kids. He told you no. So what's the game plan now? There's a whole world out there and you can certainly walk out that door and go find out. You don't want these kids around, they aren't going anywhere. You want that man careless and kidless. That isn't going to happen. So why not go find what will make you happy? You actually have two choices, adjust the parenting duties in your home to falling on your DH and finding other things to fill your time with or leave. If DH refuses to take on the parenting and disciplining of his kids, that only leaves the one choice. Pack and bags and move out. You can't beat the kid and/or husband into submission (your buns will go to jail if you cut loose and start beating on them)and you can't force your husband to change what type of parent he is. This fight you're pitching today with husband can go on and on and on. But what is it going to change?