I have been married for over 8 years and tormented by my husband's ex the entire time. She uses the children against him every chance she gets. I thought when they got older things would ease up, but they just keep getting worse. His son just turned 19 and his daughter just turned 17. Their mother enrolled the son in school just to keep child support coming. Come to find out, he didn't even score high on placement test to take the courses he needs, he has to take developmental courses first. And BM wants more child support and money for college.