In need of some advise.  I've been dating a man for the last 4 years.  We both lost spouses to cancer, had teenage children at the time, and have in-laws that have struggled with us moving forward in our lives today.  For my own mental health I have had to cut off the unhealthy relationship with my in-laws.  My son was from a previous relationship I had and therefore I could break ties.  My boyfriend on the otherhand, children came from his marriage to his deceased wife.  The kids now 23 & 21 are so very easily influenced by their mothers family.