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Issues with MIL and SD

Sweetpea531's picture

Ever since we found out we are expecting, my SD15 has been really acting out and now my MIL. Brief on my SD15 for those whom have not read other post, her grades are slipping, and she does not care about anything.

She has been sneaking boys over at her mom’s house and still counties to steal from me and stores (which has been ongoing for over 5 years. I have a lock on my bedroom door to help prevent my things going missing but still happens if I forget to shut the door for more then 5 mins). Husband just got a phone call the other day from the principle at school to come down and talk with them and the police. There was a rumor going around school that SD15 old BF from the fall, had sexually assaulted her, so know there are these girls whom want to fight SD because it’s not true.

Come to find out SD had made it all up. I have pleaded to my husband multiple times to please get her in to talk to someone and see if there is more going on with her mentally then just being a teen. My husband tells me he will find someone to see Brooke then never does. I have tried to make doc appointments
for her to be on BC so that we are not raising our child and grandchild at the same time, but he must fill out the forms. Still has not happened. Now his mum is acting up. MIL has never liked me. It has been so bad that husband told her not to come to our wedding if she was going to counting to say bad things. I have never been mean to her and asked her why she says these things and she denies it. I try hard to not be around her as much as possible. Ever since my husband I got together she would ask all the time about wanting a grandbaby. So, we finally have one and told her and all she said was that is nice and then tried to tell me how to go about things. Like what doc to see and what pills I should and should not take and what to eat and not eat. I told her I understood on what is expected that I have stopped vaping and drinking and eat a lot more and clean. I get she is trying to help but there are nicer ways about it.  My husband was disappointed in her actions towards me because he thought she would be exited. When they talked one on one with him, all she had to say was negative things. How he needs to get on me every day about taking the vitamins and eating healthy that she
did not want her grandbaby to be born with complications because I do not take care of myself. That she thinks she should come to the doc appoints to help explain what is going on since she use to be a ob nurse like 100 years ago.  I started taking prenatal vitamins the day after I found out. Yes, I am built little, and yes this is my first kid, but I have been eating clean and have already put on 15 pounds. The doctors always say things are right on track.

Husband and his mum went to breakfast the other day and he was talking about me, positively, and how exited he is about expanding the family.
I guess she agreed a little on what he was saying about me. Later that evening,my husband’s sister asked if he had talked to her at all the rest of the day and if she seemed off that morning. He said no that she seemed to be in a good mood. I guess she had packed up a few of her things and decided to stay somewhere else because she was stressed out and wanted to be left alone. A few
days later she came back and seemed as if nothing had ever happened. Has anyone else have any issues with Skids and MIL being very jealous and acting out to get husbands/wife’s attention?

Comments

Siemprematahari's picture

Your MIL seems like she has issues when it comes to respecting boundaries. In a firm but nice way you have to tell her that you appreciate her concern for you and your baby but you are aware of how to take care of yourself and you got this. Your H also has to set some boundaries because she seems like she has no problem intervening and getting in your business.

As for your H he is not doing his daughter any favors by turning a blind eye to her behavior. He tells you that he will get her help but has failed to do so. She's 15 years old, what is he waiting for? She's been stealing and has accused someone of assault. Are you even certain if this is true or not?  Its obvious she has issues and needs help ASAP. What's it going to take for your H & BM to light a fire in their daughters @ss before something awful happens that there's no coming back from......

 

Sweetpea531's picture

SD admit it was her whom started the rumors and that it was all false. I have been trying for years for H to address her behavior and still nothing. I have stopped asking and questioning things because it only upsets me and stresses me out. It’s not longer me I have to worry about but my unborn child as well. 

Harry's picture

There nothing you can really do, or nothing you try to do is going to make a difference.  It’s up to your DH and BM to fix this. MIL is just causing trouble also.

step back,  Just make sure your  DH knows and understand  that SD is never going to live with you, in your home.  You are not going to take care of any grand kids.  And no more money except for CS is going to BM and S.D.