How old is SS? I am usually glad to have my SS when we're not supposed to (of course we currently do not have the primary custody) because it makes me realize I am a better and more committed mom than his BM ever will be.

Oh Stpmum, I can completely relate! I guess you are fortunate because BM lives close enough to be able to do that...although, she should obviously offer because she WANTS to watch HER child.

BM Nasty lives 4 states away, so any time aside from her week or less per year (her choice btw) is my only break time (aside from when MIL takes the SKids).

I'm guessing that your DH catches attitude because obviously (not), you should LOVE spending all of your time with SS, just like he does...what they (CP BD's) don't seem to get is that WE need breaks from the SKids. Sadly, the only ones that seem to get those breaks are the BM's themselves due to the fact that they are crappy parents who just don't care.

I hope you get your week off good luck! My SKids are going to MIL's since they are out of school & I'm not

Oh yes, the outsource the kid syndrom.

Your Skid's BM wants to outsource the raising of your child and this role has fallen to you.

No, you are NOT being unreasonable.

Just as pathetic is the NCP who takes "visitation" with the child then dumps the kid with someone else.

Based on your comments about your Skid's BM I doubt she keeps him when he is supposed to be visiting her.

For 17+ years my SS-19 was forced to fly to SpermLand 3x per year for SpermIdiot visition only to rarely see his SpermIdiot and to be dumped on SpermGrandMa, the GreatSpermGrandParents, aunts, uncles, neighbors, etc.......

Out of 7wks/yr of SpermClan visitation my SS spent a few hours with the SpermIdiot on a few days on each of summer visitaton (5wks), winter visitation (1wk) and spring break visitation (1wks). and at best spent 3 full days a year with the DipShit.

So out of 7wks (1176 hrs +/-) of visitation per year, at most my SS saw his BioDad about 219 hours.

He was used as a pawn to try to control my wife, he was used as a free baby sitter/day care for his three younger also oowl SpermIdiot half sibs by two more baby mamas. He was bitched at for being spoiled, bitched at for the CS that was paid for his support (all by SpermGrandMa btw, DickHead never paid a penny), bitched at for having nice things that his SpermIdiot half sibs could not, etc, etc, etc.... and most aggrivating of all you might ask?

Repeatedly the bottom 10%er of the legal profession family court judges would rule "any child would be blessed to have the love and support of this family" when we would bring incontrivertalbe proof of our son being neglected, rarely seeing his BioDad, etc.... :jawdrop:

I can tell you that rather than spend 1176 hrs/yr with the toxic vitriolic SpermClan I would rather do bong hits on the tail pipe of my running automobile and even now 18mos after my son aged out from under the CO the history of the situation pisses me off.

Ohhh yes...I know that one! You are not wrong, I was not wrong iether when I called BM to come get her brats since I was ill. I had a migraine, they were buck assed wild and beyond anyone's control and not taking medicines. I made DH take them to work with him too! #u@K that shit! I am not the babysitter. Barely 10 years old (twins...boy and girl) and hyper as hell and just acting out because they knew I was not going to deal with them...pushing me to the limit, let their parents take care of it! I told BM 'get your ass over here and take your brats with you!' She did! My headache was cured!
OOPSIE my bad...

If BM's willing to take him, then he should go! And no reason why you should have to lie to get him there.