Little annoyances regarding BM's treatment of my pregnancy
Just love these comments from BM and her family:
-- About a week ago, BM's mom came to pick up the skids at our house. One of the first things she does when she enters is to yell, "When's that KID coming?" When FDH said, "Any day now..." she goes, "Ohhh you should have IT on March 7th because that's my birthday!" SURE, we really want our child to have the same birthday as you...? I just love her treatment...like she purposely used the word "kid" and "it" so there's like no identity.
-- A few months ago BM asked me when my due date is. I said, February 28th. She goes "Ohhh leap year!" I said, "No, it's not a leap year this year..." and she goes, "Well that'll be cool though for the years when it is!" Ummm...not really?? If his bday IS Feb 28 what would it matter to him if there's an extra day in Feb every four years? haha! Dumb.
-- Last night I answered the door for her to get SS and BM looks at my belly and says "Oh, you haven't had it yet have you?" Derrrr....we told her we'd be calling her to take SS if we go into labor while we have him, so DING DING DING, you are right BM -- We haven't had "it" yet!
-- Last night SS3 also said all excitedly to BM, "Mommy! There's a baby in SteppingUp's belly!" and she said all sarcistically, "Yeah THAT'S pretty obvious." So I explained to her that we've been reading "big brother" books and he got really pumped and had to show her one. She basically looked at the cover and then put it down on the bench...didn't even PRETEND to be interested for her son's sake. Like, atleast fake a little enthusiasm knowing your son is finally understanding the concept and is excited about being a big brother finally! Especially when FDH has told her our worries that it will be hard transition for SS3...
-- BM is still convinced that we got engaged because I got pregnant (she asked FDH about it again a few weeks ago). Yes, both things happened around the same time but FDH was planning it long in advance for that particular weekend...and it happened to be the same week we found out I was pregnant. Yet she doesn't seem to remember that FDH didn't run out and buy her a ring when SHE got pregnant....
Sorry just sensitive and annoyed today at all the people at work saying, "OHH you're STILL HERE???" and other things like it... haha!
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I know! Like I said I'm just
I know! Like I said I'm just being sensitive and I know under "normal" conditions these things wouldn't get to me. They're just extra-annoying coming from BM
Isn't it crazy how people
Isn't it crazy how people think that when you are pregnant that anything goes?
These are things that bugged the crap out of me when I was pregnant:
1. Why would a normal person seriously dream of touching a stranger's belly?? oh wait, if you're pregnant THEN it's prefectly normal and ok. (NOT!)
2. Why do people feel the need to comment on how "big" or "tiny" you belly is?? Would a normal person dream of telling a perfect stranger (or coworker for that matter) that you are too "fat" or "skinny"? I stressed and panicked when I was pregnant that BS was going to be too small because everyone felt the need to tell me how "tiny" I was.... BS weighed 7 pounds at birth and I just wanted to say "so there!" to all of those people!
3. Why does everybody seem to think that they are your personal Dr.?? My doctor told me it was perfectly fine for me to ride my horses and continue running since these were activies that I was doing prior to becoming pregnant and I was having a healthy, normal pregnancy. If I had a dime for everytime someone said (GASP) "You're still riding your horses and running?? Should you be doing that??" I'd be a bazillionaire right now. I thought it was like basically saying that I didn't care about the welfare of my baby and might as well be smoking, drinking and doing drugs while I was at it!
4. Why is everybody so concerned about whether you are going to breastfeed or not?? Why is that anyone's business??
I could probably go on if I really thought about it, but those are the big ones that drove me nuts. It's like all social etiquette goes out the window when you are pregnant... UGH!
At any rate, you must be getting excited, your due date is right around the corner!! tick tock!
ugh the thing that gets me
ugh the thing that gets me about your list (even though ive never been pregnant, so im sure those other things will bug me too) is the strangers touching your belly. like SERIOUSLY? who EVER thought it was okay to do that? If anyone ever does that to me, I will back up right away. I think people 'try to be nice' or are 'happy' that your pregnant, but still, you dont go hugging or kissing people you dont know, so why do you touch someone's belly if they are pregnant?
Did you ever have any stranger try to touch/hold the baby after he/she was born? That would drive me insane too.
Haha -- I'm so lucky that
Haha -- I'm so lucky that I've been on the bigger side of pregnancy during the winter. I think that my big puffy coat is the only thing that has stopped randoms from touching my belly! And thankfully most people I work with are women so they've all been pretty understanding of the 'no touch' thing!
aww sorry about all little
aww sorry about all little things bm is saying and doing! Atleast baby is almost here
bm over here is 6 months preggo with her 2nd child. I was kinda worried that dh and i would get preggo before her and would have to deal with the transition of sd having more brothers and sisters around, but she seems to be dealing with it ok, in fact she hasnt mentioned nothing AT ALL about bm being preggo. and we know she knows because when bm says something about the baby, sd is around, so i think its a good thing you guys are reading those big brother books to ss, so he will have fun with it. Seems like my sd doesnt seem to either care/ or doesnt know what exactly is going on...
It's usually what happens but
It's usually what happens but it's about -20 degrees here on a regular basis so it'd be pretty rude of us to make her wait outside when she can just come into our entryway and shut the door.
Yeah, I know most of it stems
Yeah, I know most of it stems from jealousy and that's pretty much the root of all things that come out of BM's mouth towards us. I do think FDH needs to have another talk with her about being supportive of her kids having a sibling and stuff. She claimed (when we first told her about hte pregnancy) that "of course" she'd be supportive, but just that one little comment makes me think that if she's not even gonna fake it in front of us she's certainly not doing it at home. We're really wanting this to be as easy of a transition for the skids as possible... so we'll see what happens.
I just hate that I can never think of good comebacks to crap they say! I always thinks of stuff 15 minutes later!
Crazy story! I agree, your
Crazy story! I agree, your exH should take the paternity test...especially at the age where she's a 26-year-old, the poor girl is just trying to find her own identity. Yes, be careful where it goes, but why would it hurt to expand the family?
Hey, at least you don't have
Hey, at least you don't have our BM who likes to say things such as:
"I hear congrats are in order? For someone that is so broke when it comes to his first two children you sure are quick to have more. Guess they'll become even poorer soon."
and
"Fuck you you bastard, you aint bustin your ass for me or daughter or son.......................You couldnt even provide for daughter & son but yet you bring two more kids into the world....friggin loser." Never mind that my DH works hard and provides the majority of financial support for his kids.
The fact that you actually manage to reply nicely to her makes me want to give you an award!!
Yes, I definitely know that
Yes, I definitely know that it could be worse! Eek!
Darlin, pay no attention to
Darlin, pay no attention to the morons behind the curtain. Your baby is gonna be beautiful and they hate it. Screw them. Excuse my french.