We had some issues with daycare, so BM decided that until the end of the school year, she would pick up the skids (10 and 7) from school and then let them hang out at her apartment alone until she got home from work or we picked them up on our days. DH agreed with this arrangement, as long as it was temporary. I do not agree with this. I do think SD10 is responsible enough on her own for a little while, since she does have a phone, too. But I do not think she should be in charge of anyone else. And actually, according to out state laws, she should not be watching anyone else yet, not even her own sibling (until she is 12).

Yesterday I snooped on SD10's phone and found out that they have been left alone many more times than just after school. BM has left them home alone an entire day and then instructed SD10 not to tell us they were alone all day! She said, "Just tell them when they pick you up that I just left a few minutes ago. I don't want a lecture." There were a lot of other times in the evenings when SD texted her asking when she would be home, so obviously they are being left to themselves much more often than just 1.5 hrs after school.

What would you do?