I know we all come here to vent about our SKIDS.... but this cuts so much deeper than that. It’s my own daughter. My SD is a teen, does basically whatever she wants. No real structure at her mother’s house and DH is a Disney Dad with her because he feels to discipline her in our home is not going to do much even when she does the most. But my own DD, our oldest 10, has become very difficult these past few months. We have two younger ones and she feels we don’t love her. Even though we spend one on one time with her, still pay attention to her, etc. She feels we “pick” on her because with the two little ones we are teaching them as they grow (16 months and 4 months...literally babies). She says SD gets away with things unlike her. 

I feel so bad, I hate she feels this way. I’ve tried talking to her. Showing her more attention. Her attitude isn’t only here it’s at school. And when she gets upset because we say no to something it becomes so difficult to calm her down. She recently told me “to just die already” even knowing I’m in the process of removing a tumor. 

Has anyone else gone through this? She’s in therapy. And I feel torn. She’s my first baby. She’ll akways be my baby but I’m not sure what to do.