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Resent that I am full of resentment

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Submitted by StepOnMe101 on Fri, 05/04/2012 - 12:08pm

Every day is a inner battle with the resentment I feel. I hate that these people that I've had to accept into my life in order to be with my husband cause me such stress and unhappiness. It feels like it is just not fair that in order to be with the man I love, I must struggle with this for probably the rest of my life. The worst is of course the BM. Next would be the MIL and SIL, and then my step daughter. She is easiest to deal with because after all she is a kid and I shouldnt hold anything against her but even she is too much to handle a lot of the time. What a life.......The BM is a lazy excuse for a Mother, more like a babysitter. She doesn't contribute anything monetarily and hardly anything emotionally for her child. The MIL is controlling and acts as if the SD is her OWN kid. The SIL is a selfish bitch to be frank but at least she lives far away for the time being. And then SD almost 9 has turned into an angry little monster lately...I often find myself thinking WHY THE HELL DID YOU MARRY INTO THIS?!!! But that is not fair to my husband. Like I said..and INNER BATTLE...ALWAYS Sad

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12yrstepmonster's picture

Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Fri, 05/04/2012 - 1:19pm

I have learned that I control my emotions and reactions.

I show my MIL complete respect as my DHs mom. She has made it quite clear with her reactions that I and my children are not part of her family.

I have not talked to my SIL in almost 3 yrs.

My skids want nothing to do with me.

I encourage my DH to be involved with his mom, kids and sister. I do not need to be there. I will be in his life, I love him, I will do what I can to be an asset to his life.

Everyone else has little importance in my life.

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Submitted by dgb on Fri, 05/04/2012 - 2:05pm

Cut them off!!! I let things like this eat away at me too and wind up beating myself up because things can't be peaceful. Tell your DH that you are handing over all responsibility to him to deal with BM, MIL, and SD. Cut all ties and live your life with your DH. Just smile and nod whenever anything regarding SD is mentioned. He'll get tired of having to be a single parent.

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Submitted by imthewife on Fri, 05/04/2012 - 5:22pm

I never had problems with my SD or SIL until she was about 16.

Things went pretty smooth...but I know a little about how you feel. Did it seem like it was kinda ok to marry someone with a kid...because the problems were masked...and then WHAMMMMMM! There they are...? If so...you are just like the rest of us here.

The SILs have become assholes since SD is now 19 and thinks she should be treated like an adult (an adult who has EVERY bill paid for by us)...with her aunts feeding into it.

Cut them all out. The SD is 9...believe me...MORE TO COME...

I know that we think they are all great guys these DHs or SOs...but really...the crap....please...we could all do without.

Hang in there!