He's clean
SS drug test was clean, tested SD also, she was clean too.
Wife was really relieved ( she was shaking and turning white waiting for the results), she gave him a hug and thanked him for staying clean, I shook his hand and told him to keep it up.
I told my wife that I was glad that he was clean, but that there are still issues that need to be addressed with him and she said "one step at a time" , so I guess everything else that needs to be said to him will be forgotten since he made it past this hurdle.
He will be starting tech school the end of april if all goes well, I'll just be glad to have him out on his own somewhat and more responsible for himself. He almost threw a fit this weekend when I told him to cook his own food when he wanted seconds ( I made cheesesteaks for everyone, he wanted another one after wolfing down the first), he said he didn't know how to make a cheesesteak, and I replied, how are you ever going to learn if you let people do it for you all the time?
Crossing my fingers and holding my breath....
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Good Steamed!
Glad to hear that he passed this test. Hopefully it will continue.
As far as the fit, just keep doing what you are doing. You had the perfect answer to his fit. He isn't going to learn if everyone around him enables him to not learn! He is just being lazy by not contributing to the cooking in the first place, and then expecting you to jump b/c he wants seconds.
My ss has a habit of inhaling his food, and eating supersized adult portions (fyi, he is 13 and 5' tall). He sadly is overweight, and is use to a diet of fastfood. When he lived with us we tried to demonstrate to him the importance of eating healthy, fresh prepared foods (not that we have boring meals either), and the importance of proper portion size also. We didn't beat it down his throat, but when he got into a habit of eating more than his father, we would kindly let him know that the meal we were provding wasn't his "Last Supper.."
I think you and your wife are on the right track! And your wife does make sense when she says one step at a time. To instill changes in this young man will not be an overnight process, but just keep doing what you are doing! I'm so happy that he passed the UA!
Great job!
Candice
Yeah!
Yeah, one hurtle at a time... but don't let her sweep it under the rug too easily. I say, just keep in the distance and let things continue the way they are.
Your wife is the one that needs the one hurtle at a time. She's getting a grip on the reality- but she doesn't want to face it head on. This is out of her comfort zone too. If she thinks she can 'control' the issue, then you just let her control... literally... and keep in the distance, but firm when it comes directly to you. She won't be able to hide from all the issues and eventually, things will come to a head. Support her and him when necessary. Be sure to feed back lots of POSITIVE feedback for both of them.
Keep us updated!
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...
OMG!
Just send him over to my house for a weekend... my 9yo son can teach him how to make his own meal. On the other hand, maybe that's not the best idea!
Seriously, my son is nine and he can already make himself a hoagie sandwich with all the fixings, like the lunchmeat, cheese, lettuce, tomato, pickles, condiments, whatever he wants on it. The only thing I do is slice the tomato, because he's not that great with cutting yet. He's actually unloading the dishwasher right now and I taught him how to do laundry a few months ago. So you are absolutely right... he's old enough to make his own freaking sandwich!
But congratulations on the clean pee tests! One victory at a time...!
~ Anne ~
Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice: Pull down your pants and slide on the ice! -M*A*S*H (Sidney Freedman to the OR staff on dealing with stress)