So i'm married to a man that had a previous relationship with a woman for 8 years. They had two kids from their relationship. They were never married but were engaged. The relationship ended when the ex left him for his best friend. As a result my husband has gone through his ups and downs for the first coule of years after there split. We got together a little over a year after their split. Needles to say his ex doesn't like me and has made that very clear, but also tries to find excuses to justify her feeling that way. She has done everything in her power to cause drama between my husband and i including using the kids. My husband has expressed his strong dislike for this woman and made it very clear how she doesn't make good parental choices or decisions. He has gone on about all the foul things she has done and the how much of a negative attitude she has, etc... I have only had brief encouters with her due to the fact that i honestly am to the point that i dont want anything to do with her. In the begining of our relationship i was very understanding and tried to be very supportive and even befriend this woman, but she has been nothing short of nasty and evil to me all the while. Now i know that i married my husband and he has baggage, but is it too much to ask that he respect me and keep hi ex at bay. If i mention anything in regards to her or her husband, which is the friend she left him for, he gets instantly defensive and acts like i have no right to say a thing. Her complaint a couple of years ago was that i was oversteping my boundries as a step parent and needed to know my place. I tried to be understanding and work that out with her and find out what she wanted to handle and what i could handle, she never gave me a response in reagrds to that. The feedback i got from her was that she only wanted to talk to my husband and not me. I had no place talking to her or doing anything with the kids. She would say nasty stuff about me to the kids , that they would repeat whenever they came to our house. Last year I was not as involved with the kids due to my work schedule and other things, which you would think she would be happy about and be more involved, but no her husband was. This year my husband has decided to give them what they wanted and to be the main if not only person they talk to, to hopefully resolve this anamosity. I can honestly say it has resolved it for him, but they still outkast me and treat me like i dont exist. They both still lie about what there going to do reagarding the kids, what needs to be done, what they have already done, etc... They tell us one thing and i find out its something different or they just don't say anything at all. I'm really upset that my husband doesn't have my back i feel, and that he even had kids with someone like that! I mean come on, you were togteher for 8 years and engaged for a good portion of the time. I love my husband but i just don't know what he's thinking! I love the kids as if they were my own and probably treat them better then their BP treat them. I don't know what to say or do to get him to wake up and smell the coffee without him biting my head off and making me feel like im the bad guy. Very frustrated!!