I'm not sure how many are still around from when I first began blogging here, but I felt I just had to add on where our story left off.

It really happened, DH is now Sd's custodial parent, BM is the non-custodial parent and our home is Sd's primary residence!

I hope this provides hope to others out there dealing with a selfish self-centered custodial parent and fighting for justice for the children. It can happen, sometimes the right person does fight for custody and win.

Believe it or not, we made it all the way to court for final trial in may and the judge bullied the attorney's to encourage an agreement and BM finally agreed to DH being primary.

The attorney's went to the judge and told him how we wanted her to have standard visitation and she didn't want to pay ANY child support to which the judge replied, "Let's get this straight, I ALWAYS give extended standard possession and the other parent ALWAYS pays support." We had already told our attorney if BM would agree to DH being primary we would accept 200 per mo. support, over 100 less than state guidelines. Our attorney told the judge and the judge told BM's attorney to convince BM to take the deal and she did.

We were absoultly numb for quite some time.

OH, but of course the very next day Child Protective Services came knocking on our door. Apparently BM's ex-fiance's mother, the sugar mama to BM, was pissed that she paid all that money for the custody fight and BM didn't win so she called CPS and alleged that DH violently grabbed SD out of BM's arms and left bruisis on her. As I covered in a previous blog, BM alleged that the month before and tried to get a protective order against DH but lost that as well.

The CPS investigation has since been closed and cleared up, but not before CPS also went investigating BM because of the police reports where DH and I were trying to protect SD from BM. BM told DH the investigator told her that it was her sugar mama that called them. YEAH RIGHT! BM is such an idiot if she thinks we believe that is how she found out, CPS cannot disclose to anyone who made the allegations. We're sure BM was in on it the whole time, she just got mad when she ended up being questioned as well.

Our baby girl was born July 25, 2008. She is beautiful and wonderful and we feel so blessed. SD turned 4 just 3 days before and is a great big sister. BM had Sd the day we went to the hospital and was nice enough to allow SD to come to the hospital to be with us. BM has been very nice and has commented on how cute the baby is every time she has seen her.

I just couldn't ask for anything more than this. As crazy as it sounds, BM is pleasant and kind and we are all working very well together for SD.

Well... we are working well together, but BM is officially 5 months behind on child support. At least she has expressed guilt and a desire and intent to get caught up.

BM moved out of the sugar mama's house just a couple of weeks after the agreement was signed. DH and I are happy about that and proud of BM for getting out on her own for the first time in her life. Even though Sugar mama filled the apartment with a ton of expensive furniture, and just recently BM lost her job and now works for sugar mama. I know she made her bed, but I do feel sorry for BM because with the comments she makes to me of how she dreads going to sugar mama's house because she is obligated to do things for her, she is practically owned by the woman.

BM continues to attract and create drama all around her, DH and I are just appreciative that it is not involving us now. From what we gather of what she's told us, it sounds like she's pissed off all of the women in her apartment complex by flirting with their significant others. She even had her car window busted out by someone.

well, BM has invited us to go trick or treating with her and SD next week and DH and I are very happy about it. I think I Have learned not to expect things to be good between us all the time, but to enjoy it when they are good and pray that these are the times SD will remember and cherish.

I am one joyful woman.