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I'm so glad I found a place to vent, ask questions and get advice.
A little about me:
I recently moved in with my boyfriend. I moved from PA up to MA. I have a chronic lung disease so when I moved I took the plunge and went out on disability. I am currently waiting to be approved for SSDI (social security).
I love him with all my heart but I could do without the bratty whinny 8 year old that came with him. There is NO mother whatsoever so we don't even get a weekend break. She is a total brat and b*tch (daughter). As I sit here typing this she is on the sofa insisting that she WILL stay up to 9 to watch extreme home makerover because she wants to. And its not what she says but HOW she says it that makes my skin crawl. I have such an urge to smack her most days that I need to walk away or I would. My BF is a wonderful man but much too lax when it comes to parenting. Usually he will just ignore her until she nags so much he FLIPS out on her.
I've been in tears a few times just from total frustration.
Well that's all I have for now before I go and rattle on for many many pages about all the headaches she has given me. 
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thanks furie its been more
thanks furie
its been more like nag about things until he gives in haha!!!
We have been together since October. BM is no where to be found. BF took SD when she was 2 since BM was/is a drug addict. There is also a SS that doesn't live with us that is not my BF's bio son (well neither is SD but thats a long story and SD doesn't know this) but is here on Saturdays and Sundays - did you get that?
Glad to see there is light at the end of the tunnel with her. Things were great when I first moved in but now she has gotten to the point where she just ignores me...though being immature I turn around and do the same to her. Probably not the best way to do it but I do it anyway.
the shortened version of the
the shortened version of the story:
my BF dated SD and SS's mom many moons ago. SS was 3 when they started dating (13 now). BF and BM broke up a couple years later. BM came back to my BF a year after that 7 months pregnant with SD. They got back together and BF raised SD and then SS (though neither are bio kids). When SD was 2 he took both kids. They had broken up and he went back to check on the kids and found she was gone and both kids were home alone. SD was covered in makeup with no diaper on. This was Friday. BM didn't call till Monday to see where the kids were. BM relinquished all control on kids through the court system after her sister talked to her (no one has heard from her since). BF had both kids for a while be he couldn't afford them so SS went to live with friends of the family. They were involved because BM had originally told them they were the SS's grandparents and left him there. Then a couple years later she tried to take SS and get child support from them but the "father" took a DNA test and found out that he wasn't the dad. Since they had raised SS from 0-3 they were more than willing to take him back at 7 to raise as their own again, and has been there since. So my BF takes him on the weekends and he goes on vacations with him too.
Did everyone follow that? And I thought Jerry Springer was only acting haha!!!
As for light at the end of the tunnel, I mean she will eventually (hopefully) realize that I am not going anywhere and there are rules and though she may try to break them she will learn that we won't put up with it
Woah, so they're not even
Woah, so they're not even his kids? So he get into this situation because he just happened to find them home alone after BM left? And where are their fathers? I'm confused!
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
neither fathers had any part
neither fathers had any part whatsoever in the kids (besides the whole making part). He stuck around because he has been in SD life since she was born and SS since he was 3-4ish. So he loves them like his kids and he adopted SD.