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Submitted by sonja on Mon, 07/13/2015 - 8:27am

Its been a while, I learned I could be more positive about being a SM and all this unwanted drama if I stayed off here.

We've been trying to make overnight visits work again after taking a long break. DH would spend time with her on his weekends but she wouldn't come over during the break.
Well overnights lasted 3-4 months, she would still cry every time but it wasn't as dramatic as before until this weekend, she cried all Friday evening and Saturday morning until he gave in and took her home.

Reintroducing Overnight Visits

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Submitted by sonja on Fri, 02/06/2015 - 7:55am

Oh help me.. the time is near.

SD7 hasn't spent the night at our house in probably 1-1.5 years... Continuous screaming/tantrums and making herself puke every time resulted in psyc visits and it was recommended that we wait till this phase pass. In the past couple weekends we have just started having her come over for the day (DH was just spending the day with SD in skidtown and then come home and go back the next day on his weekends with her).

More financial questions

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Submitted by sonja on Thu, 11/06/2014 - 1:57pm

Kinda OT but does relate because of the CS issue.

I make a good bit more than DH does and money has always been an issue with us. He is a spender and pays CS and never has any money because of that.
Our bills are more than he can afford (his half) but I've always accepted that and I pick up his slack.
I dont feel like he tries to be frugal or cut expenses because hes now used to me making good money and benefits from that.

I told DH my life is perfect except for BM/SD.

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Submitted by sonja on Tue, 10/14/2014 - 1:39pm

Our 2nd BS was just born and I'm head over heels for him.

I've got my kids and my relationship with DH is great, our anniversary is coming up and everything is just going so well.

Of course now is the perfect time for BM to act like a super bitch and try to stir up shit with DH. They spent time yesterday fighting over text and it ended with a phone call. BM wants to whine that DH just doesnt spend enough time with SD.. he always offers to spend more time but shes gotta give a little which means her driving half way (they live 1hr+ away) but shell never do it.

Do any of your skids have a birthday close to your bios?

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Submitted by sonja on Thu, 09/04/2014 - 8:59am

I've always thought giving a child 2 full 'all out' birthday parties was ridiculous..

Especially when they are old enough to realize they are getting 2 parties with 2 cakes and double the presents, its just overboard.

DH and I are about to have our #2 together and the due date is dangerously close to SDs birthday (shell be 7). I understand that parents sometime do joint parties because birthdays are close, but I'm absolutely not making my bio share his birthday with SDs '2nd party'.

When DH doesnt have the money..

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Submitted by sonja on Sat, 02/08/2014 - 6:46am

Tough question..

Quick recap.. SD6 doesnt come to our house due to extreme tantrums in the past when she spent the night. After psyc visits it was decided that DH would go to hertown for the days of his visitation, spend the day there doing things, drop her back off and then go back the next day (its an hour or so drive each way)...

Splitting the bills when one pays CS

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Submitted by sonja on Tue, 09/17/2013 - 7:14am

The dreaded money topic has risen to the surface again.. please let me know how you guys make it work.

Obviously this question is for those households that have 2 working adults where just 1 pays CS...

I'm finally to a point where I'm making more money than DH. Until last year, he was making up to 10k more than me WHEN he was working (there were several times of unemployment).. now I make about 6-7k more...