to get a better look at the situation is usually a good thing, unless of course you are DH.

I am a SAHM with EOW custody (for a week at a time) lately we have been having tons is issues with SS8 (8.5 actually) and as a SAHM i had been doing most of the work and putting out most of the fire, that is until DH started living in La La Land with BM when it comes to the severity of the problem. BM will never see the light but I have hope for DH.

Since stepping back DH has realized that SS8 is too old to 'cuddle' with me any more, having now witnessing SS8 grab my chest and wrap his legs around me more than once. SS8 is no longer allowed to have 'snuggle' time with me, it's just a long hug and a nice short chat before bed. The cuddling started because SS8 craves a woman's attention because BM basically ignores him and we thought it would help but it anything it made it worse.

I have called him every day this week to let him know that SS8 didn't bring his home work home - now he is 2 days behind - and I let SS8 tell DH his lame explanation as to why he forgot it. DH was so mad at him last night he lectured him. He lost his video game time both days and yesterday I grounded him for a half hour. As before bed he was not listening or doing what Dh told him so I warned him to which he replied "why does it matter there isn't anything else you can take from me." i told DH and DH explained to him that there was A LOT of things that he could take away.

I also started therapy yesterday and DH asked me what we talked about and I know I didn't have to but I told him. I talked about SS8, which he when that was one of the reasons I went. But I also talked about BM, her odd behavior and bi-polar attitude toward me. DH's in ability to effectively communicate with BM and his avoidance of her. DH's over concern about money and desire for me to mother his children as if I was their mother. And last but no least our struggle with having a child of our own and why it makes me hate the sKids and resent them (i have 2 SS8 and SS6).

I go back in a week to see what the therapist suggest to help me deal with what he called 'situational anxiety'.