into the arms of another woman
that is the working title for the story that I would like to write some day based on the real life of SS8.
It will be 'fiction' of course for legal reasons 
but BM has truly been an inspiration to me when it comes to showing me how it is actually possible to drive your own child into the loving arms of another woman by being the worst mother humanly possible.
SS8 has, since I met him, always looked for affection from women. He clings to them, follows them around and just wants to be by them. At first I thought it was cute then I met BM and starting seeing her behavior towards him, then it all made sense. I told DH that SS8 is looking for a mother like the one that SS6 has.
SS6 was a 'problem' baby so since he was born BM has babied him and smothered him all the while ignoring SS8. Even during psychiatric testing a few weeks ago when asks how SS6's infancy affected SS8, BM said it didn't affect him at all, he was fine with it.
Well a month or so ago I posted that I snuggles with SS8 one morning and he talked about it all day so I started offering to cuddle him more often and make 'mommy time' for him like I do with my cats (yes I am a fur-mommy). Since then he is my biggest fan even when BM is around he will come to me for help and ask to be with me or seeks my permission to do things with BM. When we drop him off he tells me that he will miss me and he means it now. When he comes back EOW, he hugs me and talks my ear off for hours.
I am not bragging about my 'victory' over BM by any means but every child deserves to have a mother.
Should I ever succeed in writing it and sell it. I would give at least most of the money to SS8, since I know BM won't leave him a dime. Just the other day SS8 asked me to put money in his savings account so when he gets older it has 'lots' of money in it - currently he has $22 buck in there and is hasn't gone up a dime in the 3 years I have known him. DH and I want to open our own savings account for him so BM can't take the money, she already took $50 bucks out of each of the boys savings accounts.
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Sadly BM knows or at least
Sadly BM knows or at least should know he favors me in front of her, he asks her a lot if he can come with me, visit me or whatever. She has said that we can have SS8 just about any time he wants to come over but we just can't ask for SS6.
There are times I wish she would open her eyes and see what she is doing to him. There are times when I have had enough of him - he is super clingy. So if he walked away from me I would be a little sad but I don't think it would be right away. At first there would be a sudden feeling of freedom.
It's so bad the other night while out to eat DH had to tell SS8 to get off of me. We were sitting in a booth and he had his hands all over me and was more or less in my lap. I tried to slide away but I was running out of bench. It bothered me but after him being like that ALL day I didn't have the energy/drive to tell him to back off. Now SS8 is no longer allowed to sit by me in a booth.
But that is how BM treats SS6, he sits by her or on her lap (always by him and never ss8) and she feeds him and babies him through the whole meal.
We are also trying to have a baby of our own and that makes me nervous. I will always love SS8 but babies have needs, I don't want him to think I have turned into BM when/if baby ever comes.
This is true, sue...SS8 used
This is true, sue...SS8 used to be my buddy. BM couldn't handle that. The kid doesn't even want to come to our house anymore. Don't get too attached.