We have always asked BM for a reasonable amount of time to plan trips to fly SD14 up here since Delta charges $150 per flight per unaccompanied minor. DH just told me SD wants to come up for Father's Day, 2 weeks from tomorrow. I told BM myself back on April 25th, almost 6 weeks ago, to specifically NOT do this but here we are. DH asked for dates back in March at spring break before that. DH is telling her to pay for it or SD isn't coming.

BM also needs to pay for the return flight so there is no question about the return date. Last year, we had to buy SD's return ticket with a week's notice. Almost $800. We were told SD was being enrolled in summer camp a month ago and not coming for summer but obviously that's not the case. Just like BM couldn't enroll SD in school when she moved back in March. BM is such a POS but they haven't followed the CO in years and there is no CS involved so husband tolerates it.

Our marriage is already on the rocks and SD being around isn't going to help, to be 100% honest. DH also treats me like crap when she's around and I have all the responsibility with no real authority. I just pray she stays no more than 4 weeks.

Edit: Normally it wouldn't be an inconvenience but we had an ER visit for our baby a couple weeks ago, my SIL died suddenly and we helped with the expenses, and money is super tight for a few more months. It wouldn't have been an issue a month ago with proper, considerate notice. I fucking hate BM.