Wow, just a side note, I cannot believe the responses I have been getting. Everyone sees my point of view and that just blows me away considering I have been made to feel like an idiot and that my opinions are incorrect and invaild. You ladies are amazing!!! I also love it that you women are also step mothers who can relate--I absolutely cannot stand advice given, however well-meaning, by women who don't have a freaking clue and who aren't stepmothers or were stepchildren at one time. Anyway, continuing on...

Not sure where I left off, it's been awhile since I've written last. Don't matter really, I might remember some instances and bring them up as relavant to whatever I post in the future. Some interesting developments lately... My husband and I have been getting into huge arguments (we're talking screaming and yelling) about all of the things I have mentioned. (The ridiculous comments about my child going to visit when his kids go to visit their Bio mom, if they ever do go visit her; just laying around, drinking beer, keeping the kids away from me and the baby when she was a newborn and not interacting with the two of us at all; etc etc.) To be honest, I wanted to leave. I couldn't believe that he actually had a comeback to all of those things, he tried to justify or deny them. Absolutley could not believe it. He apologized for one thing, but that was it. The rest of it, he knows now that I had/have had problems with the issues that were mentioned, but it's the same response: deal with it. I am so sick of that. It's not a solution. I am about to loose my mind here and he still expects me to take care of all of the kids and run this house 24/7. There is no give and take, there is no 50/50 relationship. Everything that defines a marriage, in our marriage, it is meaningless. And as far as the stepkids go, they are always going to live with us. When we get into arguments he says in a year they'll live with her. (We'll back in the states then.) Bull shit. The bitch won't even pay $200 a month child support but she thinks she can afford house payments so that the kids can go live with her. And what all of a sudden made her change her mind about even wanting the kids? Just out of the blue, I think I might want the kids (substitute kids for child support--which will be huge), so when I get my house they are coming to live with me. Ridiculous. When my husband first read that in an e-mail he completely lost it. He told me that if he sent them to live with her it could border on child abuse because she is totally irresponsible when it comes to taking care of anyone but herself. So in my mind, correct me if I'm wrong, that means they are never going to live with her! He won't let them! He once said he would go to court before he would let that happen. My only option is to leave. Yes, I agree with all those that commented, the problem is my husband. The problem is also that I don't like my step kids, and I absoultely hate having to even think or hear about his ex. So I might not be a step mom for that much longer but as long as I am I will continue to vent and allow for you all to continue to give me great advice with how to deal.