omg! wtf is rong with that woman!!
So, I just went to pick up SD14 and SD10 from their mother. SD9 is at girl scouts, and I will be going to get her later. DH is at work, but on his way home as I am typing this....
Anyway, I am getting married on May 5th, and for months have been asking BM to get the skids on Friday the 4th. At first we asked for all day and she said only after school. So now that we are fine with only after school, she is saying that the only way we can have them at 3pm on the 4th is if we take SD10 to her friend's b-day party on Sunday, AND bring the kids home to her. CO states that she has to pick them up from us. This is a newly entered thing, and BM is severely pissed off about it! Whatever!!! She just doesn't want to come here on Sunday because BM and her bf are going on a motorcycle poker run all day on Sunday, and want to drink.
I'm sooooo pissed right now!! I want for my skids to be part of the rehersal and rehersal dinner, but I really don't think that I can do what she wants! I hate her so much!!
Do I just give in, or do what she wants? Doing what she wants would include me changing my schedule around on Sunday....it's my grandmother's 80th birthday, SD14 has a dress fitting, and my mother is coming into town from 2 1/2 hours away to take the skids and me wedding shoe shopping.....
WHAT DO I DO?????
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Any way you can have your SO
Any way you can have your SO drop your SD at her at the party without it disrupting your schedule?
You could tell BM that your Sunday is book so if she wants the girls back home on Sunday she'll have to pick them up otherwise your happy to have them stay another night. I know my SD's BM wouldn't let that happen.
I agree with Kate... is there
I agree with Kate... is there anyway that SO can drop SD off at her party, or maybe see if another one of SD's friends can pick her up on the way to the party?
And, stick to the CO. If you allow this one time, it will be happening all the time. You don't want that. Tell BM that you will be following the CO, if she can't pick the girls up, they are ok to stay another night.
so, i caved and told BM that
so, i caved and told BM that i would bring them home this one time. she stated that compromise from us would lead to compromise from her. i have a feeling it was a bad idea, and i really think that she will go back on her word, but too late now.
where i will be picking SD10 up from the party is closer to their house than to ours anyway, so it's not like it will be out of the way.
as much as it hurts to say this, part of me wonders if i can really handle this shit for the rest of my life. i don't think i'm that strong. and if i'm having these thoughts now, i probably shouldn't get married......:(
****sad and depressed****
I probably would have caved
I probably would have caved too. But then, I have recently found myself feeling the way you do now.
It got better this week but at switchover day, even though I didn't see BM, thinking about her showing up at my house felt like a knife in my stomach.
wouldn't it be nice, just once, not to be the one that gives in?... But would it be worth it...
i would love to not give in.
i would love to not give in. i suppose it's just my personality. i give in a lot!! dealing with BM tonight caused me to have a hugh anxiety attack. i wanted to puke, cry, and punch her all at once!
sometimes i feel like my SO doesn't get it. he either ignores BM, or acts like a 4 y/o when talking to her on the phone. it's so frustrating. i'm just really confused right now. i'm concerned that the way he treats her, he will end up treating me the same way if we have children. wow, admitting that is really scary.....
still sad and depressed.....