I am so incredibly sorry! That entire situation is wholly unacceptable. No child should be allowed to a.) speak to an adult in that manner, b.) speak to another child regarding their SM or BM in that manner, c.) your husband should not allow that to occur under any circumstance and d.) lastly, the BM should be spoken to immediatley about her behavior. I know its difficult and for whatever reason at times when it comes to our step children we feel like our hands are tied. I feel like this often. The bottom line is, you and your husband must maintain a united front, agree your marriage is the center and primary relationship in your family and he needs to support you and your rights. I would sit down with your husband explain how you feel, how you will not be disrespected by your own children, his children or his ex-wife. As his wife you expect him to stand up for you and your family. He needs to explain to his ex that her language and attitude is not appreciate and is incredibly disrespectful to everyone involved. The two of you need to sit down and speak to all of the kids about appropriate behavior and what it means to be a family.

I know its hard, my husband is also very non-confrontational, low key, reserved and does not want to confront anyone. It took me 18 months to get him to finally address his daughter in a manner that made me feel that he stood up for me. 18 months is way to long. Don't let this go any further, and get more out of control. Lots and lots of Bio Dad's feel guilty after divorce and tend to not see the negative behaviors in their children and have issues disciplining them. I think we have called it "parenting by guilt" and "perfect princess syndrome" around here. Something like that.

Your husband should also tell his ex that if her verbal abuse continues she will no longer be welcome to call the house. You could get a restraining order due to harassment.

Be strong, remember the woman you are. You can do this. Talk to your husband.

because I know how you feel but I have no advice for you.. Accept the issue of the SM calling and being mean to my kids.. That does not happen. I would have to be the lion with her cubs if she did because those are my babies.. Is there a way that when there number shows up that the kids have a code where they call let it ring twice or something and dad calls back that way if its her calling noone will have to answer and she can just leave a message.. I am so sorry.. Its very sad that this woman is so hateful not only to you and your child but her own flesh and blood.. Wow..
This story makes me sad..

This ex wife even lifted her shirt up in front of my bio son. She has called me a F++++ B____ infront of my son, she yelled at my son for wearing her sons hockey pads. My son has no use for her and he is only 10...It does make it difficult when the ex wifes's kids come to stay with us with their dad sometimes, because we really don't want to discuss her and my 10 year old holds a grudge. I just tell him she is sick and maybe she forgot her medication...lol..later in life I may tell him she probably just ran out of dope before seeing us....lol She sends birthday gifts for my kids from her...saying love her and her kids. Too wierd....I wish my situation had a normal ex wife in it....unfortuantely I don't ever see that happening unless I ditch the one I am with and move on...lol

My husband's ex used to call all the time, screaming and swearing and all of that. He'd say he wouldn't talk to her if she was acting like that, to call back when she'd calmed down and he would talk to her. Well, she'd just keep calling and leaving these nasty messages on the machine. We'd been out one day with the kids, came home, saw the message light blinking on the answering machine and hit the play button. The most vile, hateful, vulgar message spewed forth and our kids got a nice, little earshot of it before we both dove for the OFF button and got the machine turned off. The very next thing I did was to call the phone company and cancel our service. I got a new phone number, unlisted, and Caller ID. She has never been given the new number. She has my husband's cell phone number and that is the only number she has or ever will be given. Now I don't have to listen to her garbage and neither do my kids. Now that the kids are old enough to use the computer, I have a filter on my email so that stuff from her automatically goes into a separate folder that is not visible to the kids.

~ Anne ~

At the arena watching b/f son play hockey. BM is there. BF went to changeroom to say hi to his son, I was in foyer. I walked by this woman that stared me down, and I thought I heard her say skank...I have never seen this women before and she had a baby carriage with a baby in it...I walked away, stupid me went to an area where no one else was and then there were two...the ex wife and this woman,,,who apparently is her sister...calling me a skank, and how they are going to get me, cause I stole her husband,she will be taking all her ex husband money as well as mine. I just stood there is shock,,,looking at them and thinking you two are grown women why are you acting this way???I walked away and the sister followed me, trying to push her baby carriage into my back. I did not react because if I had of even touched that carriage I know they would have called the police. This family is a bunch of bullies but the minute someone does something to them or says something to them they are right on the phone to the police. From then on, I made sure I was never by my self...It still shocks me that they still act like idiots....This women are 40 plus years old....my godness get over it

It is up to you...how long are you able to live like this? Doesn't sound very pleasant.