No show son on Fathers Day again.
Husbands son never called his dad for the 2nd year in a row on Father's Day.H and I had a talk last night about this.I said" do you think it's because of me" we got married 10 mths ago and he said he was ok with it.Apparently the son and wife go to her fathers for Fathers Day and to hell with his dad.His sister had a BBQ and did not bother to invite brother and wife becasue they don't show.Sons wife is a princess and what she says goes.I think his son is rude and inconsiderate.How much effort goes into a phone call? My own daughter walked up to our house, gave him a hug and said: happy Father's Day" I hate seeing my husband hurt by this 36 year old selfish guy. He has a daughter..how would he feel if his little girl did that to him..
Last nightH tells me that his daughter and son are both his Power of Attorney.To me this means, I love them more and i don't trust you.H has health issues adn I have no clue what do if something happens to him.So his kids make al the decisions and I have no say?
Why would he keep his self-centered son as his P.O.A when he can't even pick up the phone to say "hi Dad" anytime, not just on Fathers Day?..he never stops in and he works just down the Street.He's been in our house maybe 3 times since we got together 15 months ago.The kids mother passed away 5 yrs ago.
All he does is make excuses
All he does is make excuses for bad behaviour.Pretty sad when you make bets on who is going to show for Fathers day.
My husband went to an adoption agency 36 years ago , on his own( to surprise his wife because she could not have any more babies after thier daughter) and asked to adopt a baby boy.He came home and told his wife and less then less than a year later along came Junior.Wouldn't you think his son would be grateful for that alone?
He does not give a crap is correct.
Did he appoint them POA
Did he appoint them POA before he married you? Now that you are married, is he willing to change it? Have you asked?
Yes, he did.I know nothing
Yes, he did.I know nothing about his will or what he wants done should he die..he won't talk about it..I only know there is a plot next to his deceased wife and no..I don't think he would be willing to change anything..he told me a while back he is afraid MY kids will get his "things"..my kids have thier own dad, he is well off and they for sure don't care about getting anything of my husbands.They are not selfish like his kids.
When he put me as his benificary on his life insurance (former employer) for funeral expenses, his daughter was not pleased and let me know it. More then once she has mentioned about her and her brothers inheritence..News flash !!! there will be nothing, daddy is too far in debt .. long before he met me!
Just wanting to know my rights as his legal wife.
Yes, he did that after his
Yes, he did that after his wife died 5 years ago.he is not willing to change anything and wonders why I would be concerned.I know he does not want to discuss anything about death, he just changes the subject. So if he was to have a heart attack or a stroke( he's alreadyhad open heart surgery a year and a half ago) then I would have no say if hi skids choose to keep him on life support...how can I sit and watch these 2 idiots make those kinds of decisions concerning thier fathers/my husbans health ?? I know he wouldn't want to be kept alive as a vegetable.
My sisters girls didn't want their mom to die even after she went through months of chemo and radiation, 6 broken ribs and in horrible pain..all they cared about is that they wouldn't see her again..no one wants to see their loved one die, but good God it was her time.Why woul dyou keep someone you love alive and sufering..a selfish thing to do
And why do both of them have
And why do both of them have POA, especially if for health care? Would they reasonably be able to work together and agree. If they each have a durable POA, they could do a lot of damage, especially if they oppose each other for any reason.
That's not a good sign that he will not discuss his will with you.
I think he is crazy to have
I think he is crazy to have any one of them as his POA..his sons wife is a trouble maker and control freak( snd does whatever she says to keep piece) His daughter tolerates her sister in law so she can get to see her neice...they fight over stupid things now, what if something major happens.If my husband becomes ill , will they have the say on health care ect.what rights do I have?
I have no clue what this POA
I have no clue what this POA covers..he acts like his kids are number one and they have more rights than me because they have been in his life a heck of a lot longer than me.His osn does not give a hoot about him..I've been told that the house automatically comes to me as his wife, but withhis debts, I may be forced to sell to pay off said debts or will his kids be responsible since they are POA.I worry that they will com eher and just start grabbing his things and I will have a bigger problem then I do now.
His daughter has said to me many times" my mother worked hard all her life so my dad and her could have things and then he married you and you put no money into this house." Hubby bought the house for us..he worked hard too and if he wants to buy a house for us to share together , I fell it's none of her business.Her mother is passed 5 yrs ago. let your dad be happy..and no I didn't put money into our home, but I tried to fill it with love..I think tha ll his kids are worried about "what do I get when dad dies"
Very sad. The only thing I
Very sad. The only thing I worry about when my dad dies, is how much all of us (including his wife) will miss him.
That's the way it should
That's the way it should be...but that's not what H's kids think..it's " what about my inheritance" sorry selfish kids..there won't be any..oh ..and the motorcycle sonny is expecting to get is not paid for..your dad owes more then what he is worth !
I can't answer your
I can't answer your questions, I don't know.I would likely be on the street.The only thing that my name is on( beneficiary) is some insurance from where he worked.He told me it was to bury him (next to his first wife) Would I have any say in that??
POA? Hell I wrote my kid
POA? Hell I wrote my kid like that out of the will.
I gave my youngest a medical power because I believe my wife will keep me alive past my will to live just to keep from entering the mourning stage of letting me go. I.e. selfishly keep me on tubes in hope I'll recover even when the Docs say there is no chance.
You hear of this happening all the time in our medical system where the Doctor makes more money and avoides more lawsuits by advising that as opposed to the truth.
So my wife has a medical power and my son a more recently dated one. He has instructions to step in if he sees her failing me in this regard.
Your husband sounds like s
Your husband sounds like s reasonible man, mine is not..he is set in his ways and nothing I say or do will change his mind..I am sure it's his kids warning him and giving him advice.He may just find himself alone if he keeps things between him and his 2 kids and doesn't start sharing with me.
You guys need to share more
You guys need to share more information about these things. Once you have the information, privately get the legal/financial advice that analyses the situation in full for you. Don't have your head in the sand over this one. It sounds potentially very messy.
I can't do a damn thing..he
I can't do a damn thing..he refuses to show me the will ,says it's at his lawyers..I am pretty sure his daughter has a copy.He will not let me have a say in anything legal.I have no rights whatsoever...you can't share if he refuses to discuss it with me.He has already had bypass surgery so I really am afriad for him as he does not tek care of himself or does anything the Drs tell him.It will be messy if his kids have POA..I basically feel like a boarder in his house.