Your mil SHOULD respect your view of the picture but she doesn't. You made it clear and your husband made it clear and her response was 'oh, well.' There is not much that you can do about it. I hate to say it....
I would just keep giving her tons and tons of very large pictures for her to display at her home of you and YOUR FAMILY. Like 8" x 10"'s or even larger!!!! Good luck

My inlaws have my husband's wedding & engagement photo's hanging on their walls. DH asked them to take the pics down & they won't. They still care about the ex wife is their response. The pics are 10 years old for goodness sakes! Heck the exwife put away the photo's they should too. They also have old family pic of DH, Ex Wife & the boys from like 4 years ago hanging up. Did I mention none of us.

Course DH isn't really speaking to them. We boycotted xmas due to his evil brother & his behavior. I did call his Dad & told him about the baby & he seemed happy but we have not heard anything from them. It is their loss if they never get to know this baby. My parents will love it enough for two sets of grandparents.

People can really be stupid! I agree with Skye22 I'd get like an 11X13 made for her.

Yeah, I have the same situation. My in-laws have a small home and some pics hanging on their walls. My MIL has a portrait of my husband and his ex and their son, along with his sisters on their wall of exclusive pics. It does bother me, but I'm still not comfortable about talking to her about it. My husband hasn't said anything about it to me. My mother sure doesn't have any pictures of my ex in her house, but I guess it's because she and my dad aren't together anymore, either. Oh well, what can we do girls?

This may sound so disrespectful, but I would be sneaky and take the picture right before you leave the house the next time. Then if she calls and freaks out, just have your hubby say....

"She was MY wife at one point, and is now MY ex-wife.....the picture shouldn't be up anymore"

I have learned to put up with a lot, and also learned what it means to just "let it go".....but I would actually have fun with this one. There aren't any children in the picture anyways....

Have a great day!

oh my gosh, that's what i went through too. my mil had a photo of exwife and her son on the wall, i was upset when i saw that. i told my husband i don't want her photos in her house when i come over. he told his mother and the next time i came it was not displayed after that anymore.

i'm glad you expressed your true feelings about it. she'll always think of that when you are over...and maybe one day take it down. sorry she didn't see your point....i would be irritated too everytime i see that.

-happy mom

One of my brothers remarried. He was in the army and didn't come home much. My mom still had an 8x10 of him, his ex and their baby, but she really didn't think twice about it. When my brother was home visiting on leave, he brought his new wife. She told him she didn't like the fact that my mom had that picture up, and he relayed the message to my mom, so she took it down. She wasn't leaving it up to cause any hard feelings or anything. They didn't live around here, so we didn't have many pictures of him or their baby, so I think that was the only reason she had it up.

a old photograph of ss, dh and his ex gf in her living room. This picture is about 11 years old, and only a wallet size, but nonetheless she framed it and put it in a collection of pictures. Funny, b/c when I was first dating him, no pictures of her existed, then after he and I got married, then sil and aunt in law decided to buddy up to her, drink with her, party with her, and now put up pictures of her.

I think they are using her, I think that they are crazy, so I don't let it bother me. You can't reason with insanity...

She has a right to hang whatever she wants on her walls.

AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO NOT VISIT A PLACE WHERE YOU FEEL INSULTED.

'Nuff said.

~ Anne ~

I'm assuming there is glass on the picture, right? Get some of those scrape booking stuff and some double sided tape or squares, make mustaches, beards, devils horns, steam out the ears, etc etc. Can get holiday themes, witches hats, pumpkin heads, Easter, Christmas themes, whatever. Whenever you are there, sneak that stuff on it before you leave at every visit.... that would be hilarious!

I like taking if off the walls too and it just disappears, that's pretty darn good, and I tell you, that's my style myself! LOL

And like Anne, don't go over there until the picture has been removed.

Another option, is there anyone she can't stand... any political figure, or a family member that she just absolutely can't stand? Get a whopping big poster of that person and smack that puppy on your wall front in center when she comes over. When she asks why do you have a picture of them on your wall, you can respond. Well, as long as I have to look at that picture in your living room, you have to look at mine.

The first time I ever visited my in-laws house, they live in another state, they still had a family portrait of him, her and the kids hanging on their living room wall. Since they'd been apart for at least five years and the photo was obviously taken at least seven years before, I think it was just part of the woodwork and she hardly noticed it was there. I never said a word and neither did my husband, it didn't really bother me because we all know the score, but I noticed that during the visit she took it down and put it on the nightstand in the girls' bedroom so they wouldn't get homesick for their mom while visiting. She also had some things in frames in her bedroom and in the basement rec room, but I know they weren't there out of any great love for the ex, but because she just loves her grandkids. By the time we next visited her house, there were zero photos that included the BM displayed anywhere in her house. She'd taken everything down and put them into the kids' photo albums. (She keeps one for each kid.) She'd also started a photo album for my son, and this was before my husband even adopted him. There were brand new photos of me, my husband and all of our kids to replace the old ones. Knowing the history and that the divorce was so hostile and contentious, knowing how the ex treated my mom-in-law over the years, she could hang an 8x10 glossy of the woman in every room of her house and I wouldn't feel the least bit slighted. I know my mom-in-law... she'd likely have them there for target practice!

~ Anne ~

Okay, ladies... have to play along with me, otherwise, well it's just not as fun...

Theme:
Mission Impossible (Steptalk Style.)

Drum roll begins... Dah dah da da dah dah da da (You know you have to get the whole experience here... So, I'm humming the Mission Impossible song...)

When you are at her house, and once she has left the living room, you pull out your handy dandy 'spy camera' (okay, really it's just any digital camera you have laying around that you pulled out of your purse....)

da da dah dah da... (music still going.)

Okay, you take a close up picture of the picture, and using a pencil, pen, whatever, stick that puppy right next to the ex. And take another picture (Why? because you'll find out later...)

Nah na naaahh nah na naaaah, nah na naaaah, dah da

Okay, you then go home to your trusty laboratory (also known as your kitchen, office, bedroom, whatever...)

You then, practice posing like she is in the picture, and set your camera up on a tripod, or shelf, where ever, and take one of those delayed pictures with you being in the same pose.

Then you print out the photos, and using the item you used you can approximate the size of the photo it needs to be... don't have to be perfect, but then you cut all the background stuff out, and any area where the ex isn't visible by other family, etc etc.

(cool part of the theme song)

Next time you're at MIL's, slap that photo of you right over the ex, and see how long it takes her to figure out what's wrong with the picture...

tah dah da, tah dah da, lots of drums, ta da...
Fade to black... roll credits...

(Yeah, this is what happens when you indulge yourself on chocolate truffles, chocolate cookies, gingerbread cookies, lots of caffeinated drinks, and I think I've gone and overdosed on them truffles Santa gave me... I guess that would explain my insomnia huh? Quick, someone give her a chocolate syrup IV drip, she's going into shock!)