Ok so my boyfriend and I are both 31 and we have been together for just shy of 2 years and we live together. I have a 9 year old daughter with my ex, and my boyfriend has a 4 year old son with his ex. I have custody of my daughter and her dad has visitation (every other weekend). HOWEVER, when I am in need of someone to watch my daughter, my parents almost always watch her for me...I suppose that makes me lucky, but it is what it is. My boyfriend on the other hand has no court ordered custody arrangement. AND he barely has anyone to watch his son except for his ex (the boy's mother).