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Spunki...where are you?

overit2's picture

Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:20am

Ok...boards are weired since we have new moderation going on...is it someone going crazy behind the scenes or are people deleting their accounts suddenly...wth?

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:29am

didn't that dreamweaver person who left yesterday say she was reporting Spunki? Maybe admin deleted her for something? Or maybe I have it all wrong.. I really do try to steer clear of the drama posts. But at any rate, I hope she's not gone, I like her no nonsense, no holds barred style.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:36am

That is one of the few things that I do dislike about this site. People get booted off at the drop of a hat. Or at least they used to. I hope that it is not starting back up again.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:37am

NO!!!

BTW, it was Starfish that dreamweaver said they were going to report...unless they did it to Spunki as well...

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Submitted by Butterflykisses... on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:56am

Probably so. I don't know what to say. If everytime I had a comment that did not suit my fancy- I would have deleted my account a long time ago.

Just shrug it off.

" Whatever."

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:54am

I think she deleted herself.
I don't know why Admin would have deleted her.

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Submitted by Butterflykisses... on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 11:58am

2 + 2= 4 normally. Deleted blog then vanished. poof

I feel like I am looking for Carman Sandiego...

skylarksms's picture

Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:03pm

Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad

Spunki has helped me out tremendously. I hope that she sees this and knows that!

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:04pm

reneew6169 and butterflykisses, I am with you both. I have only been on this site a short amount of time. Give me a break...Everyone has their own opinions and way of describing things base on their life experience. If you don't like what they say or how they say it move on. Who cares. They have a right to vent, rant, rave or just ask a question. It is a forum for goodness sake. If we all saw things the same way we wouldn't need each other....right?
I hope she comes back too!

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:06pm

Well if she deleted her own account, I would just like to say if she is reading, THANK YOU for not doing a "goodbye, you all suck" post.
Maybe she just needs a break. Or thinks we are all bitches. Or all of the above.

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Submitted by skylarksms on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:07pm

Maybe some unseen chaos raised its head in her life forcing her to close out of this site for now...

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Submitted by Butterflykisses... on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:33pm

I don't know what to say. I would comment on her blogs but she never replied to me personally nor ever commented on my own blogs / posts. Sad

I do not think she got booted.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 12:54pm

Oh, come on, AD, who was telling her that? The responses on her blog weren't nasty at all. If that is why she did it, then maybe she needed to delete.

You know, some of us are married to these ex-husbands, that get left out of the loop when it comes to their kids, and get accused of trying to still be "in the marriage", when all they send is an email that is pretty blunt and to the point, because they don't want a long, drawn out ordeal. There is always two sides to every story. Like I posted earlier, you can't FORCE a non-custodial to take their visits. Should he get his kids? Sure. Can you make him? No. NO ONE knows that better than me. There was nothing mean or nasty on that thread.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 3:27pm

I can only speak for myself, but I wasn't prejudiced against her for that reason. I guess I will put it this way-if I want to listen to someone complain about stepmoms and exes, I would give DH's ex a call.
I disagreed with her, so what? There was nothing wrong with what I said.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 5:56pm

Um, I am a mom whose DH adopted my bios. So yes, it is relevant, because they are stepkids. Thus, I put it on a step-parent board.

I don't think you are singling me out, I don't know why you get that impression. Of course you are entitled to your opinion, just like I am to mine. I am not upset about this thread at all. That is how I feel. I am not losing any sleep over it, and I hope no one else is.

She might have been a great person, I don't know, and I disagreed with her, but I did not f&*^ her up the ass with it. Must have been someone else.

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Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 1:15pm

Wow, come back from the gym and all these responses...I wonder..I like her a lot. I'm thinking that maybe she deleted it?
I did notice everytime she complained about her exh she got ragged...in fact I notice most posters who might complain about exh get a totally different response then ragging on skisd of bm's...but oh well..

I hope she comes back...I enjoyed her outlook and style.

"There is always two sides to every story." Unless you are a smom on the site..then it's one story and we must take that side of the story always 100pct of the time.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 1:25pm

"I did notice everytime she complained about her exh she got ragged...in fact I notice most posters who might complain about exh get a totally different response then ragging on skisd of bm's..."

That MIGHT be because this is a Stepparents board, not a My Ex Sucks board. Kind of a no-brainer.
How do you keep forgetting that?? It says it, right there at the top, in big ol' letters.

I don’t come on here and complain about my ex and whoever he is with, especially to a bunch of women that are married to someone’s former husband. It’s kind of asking for it, in my opinion.

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Submitted by overit2 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 2:25pm

Still doesn't make sense---everyone is welcome here...most of us here that are in new relationships/marriages have exh's...is says comes to vent...that means you can only vent about your dh's exwife and skids???

We don't only have issues w/them-many of us have issues w/our exhusbands also that relate to our new relationships.

I know-I'm with someone who was somebodys husband...I don't take it personally when someone complains about their exh....-they aren't talking about my bf or dh so what's the problem?? I do not get the double standard that seems to exist with some on this site.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 6:02pm

Sure, bitch away. People can say whatever they want.

Just don't get all pissed off when people diasgree with you, especially when you are complaining about your ex-husband or saying you hate your kids stepmom. I have been here longer than you, so you are preaching to the choir about some of the stuff that has went down here. If you are going to throw it out there, you are going to get some dissenting opinions. That's all.

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Submitted by aggravated1 on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 6:21pm

Excuse me???? She was the one who mentioned how long she had been here, I was simply stating that I had been here a long time also so I know what she is talking about regarding drama on this board. I don't know what is up your ass about everything I post today, except for the fact that YOU DON'T LIKE IT, and I don't give a shit.

If me not agreeing with what Spunki said is enough for you to want to argue it into the damn ground, then f'ing bring it. I'm actually bored with the whole thing, so if it makes you feel better, have the last word.

Smooches.

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Submitted by sweetthing on Wed, 01/26/2011 - 8:15pm

I have been here gor 4 1/2 years and this stuff runs in cycles I swear every 6 months or so. There is always someone who thinks that that the BM's are trolling or the debate about what the purpose of this site is for. Sometimes venting is good but sometimes I think it brings me down and makes me bitter. Onething that truly makes me sad is when we turn on eachother and fight on here. If you. Can't get along with faceless women no wonder a person has issues in their real world.

Sorry for any typos I did this from my Nook.

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Submitted by overit2 on Thu, 01/27/2011 - 9:01am

Well-yes it runs in cycles....and seriously it's been plain to see that one group here has run others off repeatedly unless they match the criteria they think should be able to be discussed and vented about or WHOM this board "belongs" to. Well they can kiss my German/French/English ass! lol

Somethings I just have to stay away from-I'll agree in that certain posters to ME impersonates every evil horrid stepmother stereotype out there. Everything from them about her skids is hateful, disgusting, mean- recent blog I saw today comes to mind... I feel sorry for the Dh and the skids honestly-and YES if I were a BM and had them as a Smom I guarantee you I'd be venting about her also (if I hadn't kicked her ass to jupiter already).

The thing is-a lot of us are dealing with Skids issues and are ALSO bm's...so reading some posts here about how bad some smoms are I'm sure it makes people nervous about who their kids deal with. I'm not afraid to say that-people can disagree all day long. THAT is the point some of us who are also bm's have tried to make. It IS scary to read some things posted. It's downright sickening. it goes beyond venting-it's WHO these people are. Sure come and vent about it-doesn't mean you aren't a shitty smom. BUT taking responsibility and ownership of their behavior is beyond comprehension to them. Most bad people are that way-they won't ever see it or admit it.
I don't have a smom my kids deal with but I'm sure it's a possibility some day. I deal with a sick and deadbeat and manipulative BM...I KNOW I'm not one of "those".

I know many get tired of being accused of being the crazy, pas'ing bm just because they are bm's also and stand up to some fierce things said about skids.

And you know-the ONLY time I hear "there are two sides to every story" from certain posters (not addressing HS here) is when BM's are venting about exh's or smoms. You never hear that when this same group is ranting about bm's, skids. Double standard-always. I wish they would own up to their own behavior as much as they demand the bm, skids and dh do with theirs.