Well, this wknd was the bday party the BM was having for her D.

I was obviously skeptic-it was the first combined event w/her/her family/friends-and then just my bf, me and my boys. He normally doesn't do the both parents bday. BUT his D had specifically invited us and the boys so IMO it would have been rude to not suck it up and go.

Of course it's not drama free. Remember his ex doesn't have his phone n still (been several blissful months)-but relays message thru his parents to ask us if I was showing up early to help her set up for the bday party-that her D had mentioned that I might want to show up to help set up. FIrst of all, that's total BS-her D wouldn't ask me that, second, she didn't ask me that...I don't know WHAT her motive was for that tactic-but honestly if you're trying to get to know me more, and have me feel included and welcome (perhaps she just wanted to see why we aren't giving her the phone n)--why would you make something up like that? Why not come out and ask us, perhaps 2 day advance notice if I could come help set up? My bf just said we didn't know anything about it and we'd be there at party time. #67 is our best friend

I know she has a motive for everything she does-but really I don't care to figure it out. But wth? I mean you ahve your friends and family to help you-it's your bsns, not sure what you're trying lady but let's leave well enough alone. Her and I don't interact much at all luckily-lets keep it this way!

Overall it went ok-I walked in with my kids and my bf was parking-she asked if I knew when he was coming..I said yeah he's here, he's just parking the car (in other words-yes we drove together).

She kept glancing over a lot-only a few words exchanged. She has this habit of walking back/forth past you many times-she does this at games also...weird. She turned to us to get a picture..what?? why?? SO my bf just leaned in really close But just odd, why would she want a pic of us? Totally caught us off guard! I told her it was a nice party though and smiled if we made eye contact.

My bf and I were are usual affectionate selves but not overboard either, nothing purposeful-the kids were all playing and we were in our own corner, flirting a bit..she walked by yet AGAIN-and got an earful of naughty talk I'm sure she didn't want to hear }:) but then stop passing by us all the time!

Anyways...I guess in a scale 1-10 it was a 6-7, she knocked points off w/her game of me helping set up for the party. As IF! You're the mom-you have the full custody thingy-like I do-I set up my kids party all by myself. I wouldn't dream of asking my exh's gfriend (even though he doesn't have one now). Always a motive..but I'm never sure which it is.

On the positive side-she has lost a lot of weight-so she does look much nicer now...so maybe she'll be able to find a bf and keep her busy and stop pining for her exh (my bf). Only thing is with that she'll start going out more now and I'm sure we'll be having SD more too.