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Submitted by Oliviasmommy on Fri, 07/02/2010 - 11:01am

Ok so I have gotten married in April and my husband has an 8 year old. And well I really dont know how to treat him. I would talk to him and everything but all he wants to do is play video games. When we go somwhere as the family he complains the whole time. Oh and his mother drills him evertime he goes back over there to her house and she talk bad about me. Please help me. This is already causing problems in the marriage. Thanks!

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Submitted by PrincessFiona on Fri, 07/02/2010 - 11:06am

If you like video games then use it to open the door. Ask him to show you how to play, ask to play with him, create a little fun competition. Boys love that thing.

I've found an odd connection with my own son with music. He likes what I like and it's not something that other kids his age listen to. It's been wonderful.

All you can do about the BM is ignore, ignore, ignore ! Nothing you do or say will make it stop.

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Submitted by Will it ever change on Fri, 07/02/2010 - 11:08am

I agree. My son is 12 and the same way.. Video games and computer games are the way to his heart. You should play woth him, you will enjoy yourself also. I play with him all the time we have a blast. Especially the Wii games becuase they are more interactive!

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Submitted by 2young4this on Fri, 07/02/2010 - 11:09am

One thing that I find is really fun to do as a family is play the wii. it gets the kids interested and the whole family can be involved. It's a lot of fun!

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Submitted by Oliviasmommy on Fri, 07/02/2010 - 1:05pm

I have tried playing video games with him but the problem with that is that I dont know anything about the controlers or games and he gets mad at me saying..... you are doing it all wrong, you dont know how to do it, then he takes it away from me.

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Submitted by SusieQ on Sun, 07/04/2010 - 2:25pm

You could try taking him somewhere, just the two of you. Like bowling, an arcade, the park, out to dinner, a movie...something where you two could bond. Then plan things for the entire family to do as well.

Too many video games turn kids into little zombies...we have four boys in our house and we have to limit the time they play the games or they act strange and it causes problems. They don't like it but a little fresh air and imagination does any kid good!

As for the biomom badmouthing you...I feel your pain. By 12 though he might be able to see through what the biomom is doing. Biomom shouldn't do it, and is probably court ordered not to in your parenting plan/visitation schedule. Just keep being a good stable person in your Stepson's life and he will realize who is telling the truth. Don't ever bad mouth the biomom just let your own actions speak for themself by being the bigger, better person.