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Husband been talking to ex-girlfriend

olivia's picture

A couple weeks ago I called my husband out on talking to an ex-girlfriend, I just had a hunch. He admitted to it. This is an that he was with when I meet him and he totally lied to me and told me that it was his step-sister. Well a little later on I got a call from her telling me to back off. I was pissed and was young that I was not going to let her scare me away. It had to come from him. Well he told me that he had been with her for a while now and let me go. Well him and I ended up together again a couple months later. Well this year on his birthday she contacted him, this is more than 10 yrs. Later and we have been married for 7 yrs and have 2 daughters. She is also married w kids. He waited till way later in the night to tell me, after he had been drinking. I was livid! I went through his phone to find that he had erased her call. Well then about a month laster I called him out on talking to her again, having no clue really, just a hunch. He admitted to talking to her a few times since his birthday. I contacted her on facebook and she told me the same thing he did, a few times. But not to worry bc she is happly married, etc. Him and I got into it one night and I left, well I didn’t really leave I went to sit in the car for a bit when I listened to him talking to someone on the phone. It was her. I cussed her out and she said that her husband knew that they talked and so on. I later let him know that I did not appreciate him talking to her and wanted to know why he was doing this. He said that he went ot her for relationship advice about us, and that he would not talk to her anymore if it bothered me that bad. I told him yeah that is what I wanted. 2 weeks later we were at the bowling alley and my husband said look who is here. He seen her car. I asked him how he knew her car and he said him and our daughter seen her at the grocery before and that she told him that she bowled. He asked me if I wanted to go say hi to her. Well of course I did, I wanted to let her know that I didn’t appreciate him keeping them talking a secret from me. She was understanding and we get along fine, well to my knowledge we do, I have a hard time trusting anyone bc of my past. Later that night on our way home from a party my husband made a comment to me about how he could have anyone, and I meet her. In my mind I thought of her, then I went straight to bed and came out a 5 mins later to him on the phone, in front of our kids…I take the phone from him and ask who it is and it was her, WTF, I thought he said a few weeks back that he wouldn’t talk to her. I texted her and she said that she got a text saying nice weekend huh? She said that she thought it was me and asked me why does he do that to u. I told hher I don’t know why and I don’t know why I stay. She told me I stay cause of the kids. I tried talking to him and he said all he remembers is me snatching the phone from him and throwing it. }:)

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Madam Hedgehog's picture

this is horrible. your husband has been lying to about another woman. if i were you, i would ask him to go to therapy. if he refuses, then get out. if he will lie to you like this, there is absolutely no way you can trust him.

beyond pissed-off's picture

My suggestion would be a nice call to the ex-gf, say that you were just being silly and hormonal and ABSOLUTELY INSIST on dinner for the 4 of them this Saturday night. You know, so that they can clear the air and all just be the bestest of chums that you ever did see!!!