Keep your chin up...there are some bm's that really don't put their childrens best interest in mind. We have experienced that all too much with ss's bm.

Try not to lose any sleep over this fighting..it is really important to not get caught up in the negativity. That negativity will consume you, and truly make you miserable (I'm speaking from experience on this one). Just remember, just as you are eager to support your dh by being there, you also need to re-enegize yourself. These court hearings are really draining, all the emotional drama, and the let down, it is a real roller coaster ride. Make sure you take the time to take care of yourself and do something nice for you! It will help you continue to being supportive of your dh, and when you have to face the bm, you will have less anxiety.

The courts are going to give him the standard treatment of most fathers, so possibly every other weekend, maybe one over night stay during the week, split summers and holidays, and vacations. I know he would love to have more...but the courts just apparently don't like fathers...or only value them enough for a cs order. I just remember feeling like the world was against us, and they just wanted his money...never mind what else he had to offer as a father...