I need to vent, hope you dont mind. I had to of known that Thanksgiving break with my SD was going to be tiring.. Wow.. it sure was.

My husband, SD, and brother in law all drove to PA to visit my husbands grandmother. She is 95 years old. One of the most fantastic women I have ever met. My husbands mother died with he was 19.. so his grandmother has been one of the most influential people in his life.

Needless to say, as soon as we arrived.. SD was already trying to take the room with the biggest bed. REALLY? My husband said NO! SD got all mad, ran out to the car and cried for over an hour. The grandmother told my husband that he shouldnt bring her next time if she is going to act that way. The grandmother said she didnt want to be put in the middle, it's not fair to do that in her house.

SD finally came in.. total additude. She ended up sleeping on the couth. she didnt want the other bedroom which had a queen size bed? Later that night.. of course.. as always.. she knocks on our door for attention. Totally stopped us from having sex... My husband got up... tucked her back into the couch and told her if she gets up again.. she gets her phone taken away. What did she do? Yep.. got right back up.. came to our door.. complained how hot it was. My husband put her back to bed.. came into our bedroom and NEVER TOOK HER PHONE!

The next day was full of disrespectful comments from SD to her dad. We all just sat there at lunch in awe. We didnt say anything. My husband told her "if you dont stop Im going to take your phone away".. SD said "YEAH RIGHT!".

See.. perfect example of SD knowing her dad has no balls.

Later in the evening my husband and I were going to go out for an hour just as adults.. My husband ASKED SD if it was ok??? she said NO. So we ended up staying in the whole night. AND SD was a total brat.

I was upset. I would NEVER let my daughter tell me whether I can go out for an hour with my husband or not. SHE IS THE CHILD! What is wrong with people! When I spoke to my husband he said "i only get her every other weekend~!" That's his excuse for EVERYTHING!

When we left PA.. His grandmother told me a few things 1. I hope SD doesn't spoil yoru life. 2. Next time she acts out, give her a pacifier.. cause that's what she is,.. a BIG BABY.

I know some men are in denial and try to "make up" for the divorce or time away. But dont they see they are only hurting the children in teh end?

oh and i forgot to mention the 2nd night.. SD was complaining of her stomach hurting (one of many reasons every night).. so teh grandmother said "dont bug your dad, I'll stay up with you". THANK GOD! She actualy got her to stay on the couch and let us have ONE night of full sleep. THANK GOD!

On Sunday night after he put her to bed, school night, she was SCREAMING at the top of her lungs CRYING.. DAD DAD DAD. Cause she didnt want to go to bed. I thought it was my 4 yr old.. but it wasnt. It was SD.. of course. We had company over.. how embarassing. My husband had to put her to bed.. took him about an hour.

Now I am faces with many issues with my husband. I am taking my daughter to an amusement park this weekend. I didnt invite his daughter as I WANT TO SLEEP THIS WEEKEND! plus we dont have our kids on the same weekends. But he is upset I am leaving his daughter out of fun activites. He said I am alienating "US".. meaning him and his daughter. I told him until he gets his daughter under control.. I wont involver her or subject other people to her misery. It's embarrasing the way she tells him to Shut-up, You're stupid, I hate you, NO. It's REDICULOUS!

I dont have an issue just going with the 4 of us,.. my daughter, his daughter and my husband. But I wont go with a group of people or to visit my side of the family. so sad.