SD16 lives with us and I have known her since she was 10. Not one time has she ever asked if she could get a present for her dad. I always have to force her to do it. Now she is 16 and I am staying out of it.

Then we found out when she was asking us for money to get her mom something she was actually just keeping the money for herself!!

My ss is 8 yrs old and he knows what I buy for his dad will have his name on it. SS is still in the stage were he likes to draw pictures as gifts and he makes things. I have a gift under the tree now that he made me its in a envelope. I didn't see one for his Dad.
SS did ask if he could give his cousin on Bm side of family some of his toys. They don't get very much and ss feels sorry for them. I hate to be mean but I don't incourage that because ss is such a giving little boy that I feel they will use him for their on gain as he gets older.

Ss almost 11 has never once thought of making a gift for anyone. He even refused to do the school activities that are making gifts for parents. One year we got a card...with Merry Chri... Written in pencil. Didn't even bother to finish the card and gave it to us with no shame.

SD 9.5 will do the school activities and half the time give them to a friend or keep them for herself. For mothers day last year the school had them make necklaces with a polished stone as the medalian. She kept it for herself. Dh usually gets a handmade card that she throws together sometime Xmas afternoon.

BS is only 3 so this is his first Christmas where he really gets what's going on. He made stuff for me and dh at preschool and seems excited to surprise us.

Typically, we have to ask SS10 if he wants to get something for his BM. And he is always all over me to help him with his dad. It is hard on everyone- you want to teach them it is better to give than recieve but, well some people just don't get it.

All the skids made a gift for their dad (and me too) and then I bought one gift from them to their dad. He has no idea that there is a gift under the tree for him so it should be fun to watch. They know and so far none of them have cracked.

Ss14 has never purchased his father a gift in his life. However I am aware of gifts he has purchased fr bm. He doesn't get him a card, nor does he make cards, nor has he ever asked my assistance in getting dh anything. When he was young- 3rd grade and below--and lived with us he might give dh and I class projects he made. I mentioned in another response- the year he was 9 he gave dh and I a bell at Xmas that he made in school. On it he had written- dh + bm. At that point in time their relationship had been over for almost 9 years. He gave his mom and her husband the same bell with the same special Xmas message

DH used to buy not only for his kid's little sisters (not his) but for Uberskank as well. Her little sisters, not an issue. Uberskank. Issue. But it's none of my business since our finances are separate and he's free to spend money on whatever he wants.

I have helped my SS purchase and chose gifts for him Dad. Now he has his own money so he buys them but still checks with me on what to get etc. For the first Christmas we were together I took him out and had him pick something out for his mom and paid for it (DH paid me back), the second year I tried to do the same thing and he told me he did not want to buy here anything and has not bought his mom anything for the past 7 years. I tried to get him to purchase something small but he had no desire to...yet he did buy me gifts every year.