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Submitted by Most Evil on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 10:33am

Http:WWW.today.com/moms/parental-estrangement-silent-epidemic-cut-kids-1C9163139

I have witnessed several cases of parent/child estrangement, including my SD and on my own family. It is heartbreaking.

In this article it seems all the parents are wrong and all the children are right? And in the comments too.

I have cut off several siblings who chose to abandon my parents when they are old and sick, even dying. They disgust me. Of course I am not referring to someone who abused anyone.

I guess I am wondering .. why people think it is ok to do this??

At least alienation is mentioned here, despite not being recognized by the courts.

Just something to think about. My dad died and my mom is very sick. I can't imagine just washing my hands of them??

P.s. this is the issue that brought me to this site, when SD cut off my DH ..

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Submitted by Most Evil on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 10:36am

If anyone can help me with making the link work, that would be great please ... I couldn't get it to work, on my phone, thanks. Smile

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Submitted by tryingmom on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 1:07pm

I watched this segment yesterday. It resonated with me as my BS27 is estranged from his father and has been for over 10 years. I look back over their situation and feel for both sides. My BS27 was basically told by his father (a year after our divorce)that he'd met a woman and she had kids that needed a dad and that he was moving about 3 hours away. At the time my son told me the story and added his commentary...."what about me, don't I need a dad?" My son was 16 at the time and I was heartbroken for him. My son just didn't want to deal with him any longer and hasn't spoken to him in years. His father will call and leave voicemails for him that drip with guilt about BS not calling him back. I hope his father never stops trying to contact him. I will not facilitate their relationship, its theirs to work out.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Tue, 04/02/2013 - 2:12pm

Oh gosh, that is terrible, and I do, like you, see both sides.

My own dad said some mean things to me a few times, but when he did he was an alcoholic at the time. After years went by and his recovery he was a different person and we went on to have many much better years together.

I think parenting is hard (I have no biokids) and without a good example of what a parent does, someone can do stupid things like your ex did. But then on the other hand, I told my DH, I can't wait for my SD to be a parent, to show us all how it is done, she will be the worlds first perfect person, to hear her!! Lol

I hope they can work it out. It is a shame, after your parent is gone, and there are things you want to ask them ... But can't. Maybe your ex was sick, depressed or felt like a failure after divorce. Maybe he never intended to leave your son out??

So many questions. It is hard to discuss with people too. I hope it gets better. Hugs